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Letting child holiday abroad with friend(9 Posts)
My dd is friends with a girl who used to be in her class, the girl has moved to another school. I know the family well and they are lovely.
They have asked me if my DD would like to go to Disney Paris with them for a week in August. I havn't asked my DD yet as the message was late last night.
Im in two minds what to do, she has done sleepover at friends houses and thats it (she is 9, 10 in the summer). She is quite sensitive due to the fact she has lost both her Nannas and a cousin within the last fee years, she worries when she is away from me that something will happen to me. If it was in this country i would be more obliged to say yes. What do you think?
I think I'd see how she felt about it.
It's a fab opportunity and she will be so busy there she won't have time to really miss you as such.
You can FaceTime and reassure her everything is absolutely fine at home.
I'd also chat to the friends parents, explain she can get a bit homesick and get a vibe from how you think they'd handle it.
Depends on her personality. My 10 year old - not in a billion years. My 8 year old could well be fine by that age though.
This is one of few occasions where I'd ever say you know your own child best.
Dd is now 15 but wouldn't have looked back.
Depending on where you are in the UK, Paris is nearer than a lot of places in the UK....
But yes, firstly, ask her.
Thanks, i don't want her to get there and worry about me. She had a sleepover at a friends the other week and cried about me before she went.
I think her going would be good for her, but then still have my doubts
I think it would be a fantastic opportunity for her to go. They'll be having so much fun she won't have time to think about home
Thanks everyone, she is veering towards a yes.
I’d just make she if she says yes and goes she is to be absolutely certain.
My friend and I took our children on a holiday for a week and one of my friends daughters bought two friends as well. One was great, the other a nightmare. He had never been away from home before and he cried, insisted on Skype every night which would be ok but the parents were making it worse! They were faffing and saying my poor boy etc when we needed them to say to him to pull himself together, have fun and join in. It ruined the holiday for all 7 of us and his parents ended up picking him up, which I think they were hoping for, very needy and he was having fun but you could see he was worried about them being on their own Kids aged 12-16.
So be absolutely sure that she will be ok.
What a great opportunity for DD and a great way to bolster her confidence.
I'd obviously make sure it's what my DD wanted and make her aware it's quite far from home and she can't decide last minute it's not what she wants to do. I'd also speak to the parents and tell them about her insecurities so that they are prepared in case of any tears and happy to facilitate her face timing and calling you if needed. However I'm sure she will be too excited(and tired) to be worrying too much.