Hi
I’m really upset tonight....
My ds has had to go to grandparents this week whilst I work, but I am off next week.
The grandparents( my father and stepmother) are not great and very dull, stay in mostly ... But when my stepsisters ds is down , stepmother all over him taking him out etc. My ds is aware of this too .
He’s bored at gp’s but too young to be left on own and doesn’t want to go to holiday clubs anymore like he did when young and gp’s were not retired.
He’s also annoyed as his useless twat of a dad does very little holiday cover but to top it off he’s actually booked next week off to travel Europe with his new gf and her son and not taking my ds ( unbelievably selfish) .
Tonight when I get him home he’s miserable, upset crying he’s bored there, mad at his dad etc understandable.
I’ve gone through it all, let him speak , cry it out etc I feel I’ve validated his concerns, empathised, told him it was same for me as child with a single parent etc.explained why mum needs to work etc
We took dogs out for walk seemed to perk up but as we just got home he’s gone sullen again an moody whilst waiting for tea..... an now I’m mad... I wanna tell him to pull himself together and buck up - it’s like I’m the bad parent and........ I dunno I’m so upset.. I’m angry for him with his dad and my marriage an how he treated us and how he treats his son.. I’m sorry for myself that I’m carrying the can an yet the sun shines out of dads arse.
I’m mad at my parents for the disparity between grandkids and how they are as parents... an that I have to work full time juggling all this shit.
My partner is off at the moment too.....
It’s just all so bloody much.. anyone talk some sense into me?
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Thecrown3 · 11/04/2019 19:06
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