He won't go to bed when I tell him so it's a 20 minute argument. Then when he's tucked up he'll put his light on and read more- then cannot get up in the morning, I wake him 4 times. Last week he nearly slept in and got a fright (we catch a school bus here, there are no public service buses so if he misses it we're snookered) but I still had to wake him plenty today and yesterday.
Last night he came and got himself a cup of tea at 9. I said OK bed for 9.30. So from 9.30 on it was "go to bed" "I haven't finished my tea" "well hurry up then" .......stalling for time......ignores me and watched tv. This went on for 25 mins (Grandma was here) until I paused the tv and had to raise my voice. I'm so tired of it. Tonight he was asked to do one of his chores, he went to do it, go way-layed and went to do something else (productive) but left my chore which I needed doing. 20 mins later, he's got the quad stuck in a bog while I'm trying to get his younger siblings to finish their homework and get to bed....so I have to hurry them and go and rescue ds. Then he comes in at 8.45 and rushes upstairs "I've only got 15 minutes of internet left!" I said OK, well when it's finished, get your pjs on (so that would be at 9, early, because he was so tired this morning, this was covered in an earlier convo) and i'll make you a cup of tea and then you'll get to bed earlier. I went back up at 9.05- still laying on bed, in clothes, on ipod. I'm just listening to one song he said. I said I made it very clear that you are to come down, at 9pm, in pjs, because you are exhausted. There is no time for a cup of tea now, give me your ipod. He threw it on the bed, "oh you're funny" he said, being sarcastic, I said in fact, don't come downstairs, it is too late and you are too tired. Get your pjs on and get to bed now. Slight disagreement, to which I re-iterated not to come downstairs. FF 20 mins, I had emptied washer, put a load on, few other bits, made my tea, came through and he's sitting in his pjs in the chair. I just repeat myself...over....and over....and over.... so I chatted with him very calmly, repeating how clear I had made it that he was to go to bed, he is so tired, cannot get up in the morning, etc, and I must have told him 5 times if not more, to go to bed, but he either ignores me or he stares away.
Dh works away 5 days and he is away just now. Ds is definitely leaning very much to dh just now, but had very much been a mummy's boy for a lot of his childhood. He treats me like he really does not like me.
Do I need to step up discipline? Am I lacking in consequences? He has had no kindle or ipad for about 2 weeks now, probably for being cheeky, and I still have them. He had no ipod today until 5pm. I have it now. He has chores- dishwasher, coal bucket, log basket he feeds his own animals, and does other things he is asked to do. But everything is not without a bit of a battle and I'm worn out.
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bramblina · 23/01/2018 23:19
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