11 year old dd being bullied help

[Icantfindausername]

Hi
Please help.
My daughter (11) started high school in September and she text me today saying please help me I'm being bullied by some boys in science. I text her back saying we will discuss it later and to not worry we would sort it out.
Anyway she's come home tonight fine and chatty. After tea I said should we go for a chat and went upstairs.
She started telling me and got upset. She said that 3 boys in science were being horrible to her calling her names, saying she had a squeaky voice, saying she had bunny teeth, sticking the middle finger up but putting it right in her face etc. She was clearly upset by it all. I asked how long it had been going on and she said not that long but it was all the time now.
I have told her to act tough and not like it bothers her. I've told her to ignore them as she has lovely teeth, etc.
She wants me to ask the teacher if she can be moved and to speak to them but does anyone have any ideas. This is my worse nightmare and I'm keen to nip it in the bud ASAP. Thanks in advance xxx

[Evelynismyformerspyname]

Talk to the science teacher - ring the school secretary and ask for a call back - assume the teacher will want to and be able to help. Hopefully the teacher can put an end to it. Does DD think the boys are sneaky enough to have kept this up when the teacher's back is turned? Or does she think the teacher is afraid to confront the boys and stop it? If the boys are sneaky the teacher genuinely may not know, and be able to stop it once brought up to speed.

It's actually pretty common for nasty kids to be adept at hiding their nastiness from adults.

[whoareyoukidding]

I can only tell you what I did, and I am not saying it is the only way. I complained to the school and nothing happened. So I waited at the gates at the end of the day and when the bully came out, I warned her off. I can only say that it worked and I wasn't prepared to have my daughter upset by someone else's child.

[Evelynismyformerspyname]

If that doesn't work you can contact DD's form tutor next, who should be able to talk to the head of year if the best thing is to move DD, and the head of year will have an overview and know (though obviously won't tell you) whether anyone else has complained about any of the same boys in other subjects/ break time.

[Creasey31]

In the first instance speak to the school and make sure you say you want to know what they are going to do and a follow up with what they have done. If you don’t act up they will ignore it and it could really affect your daughters confidence. Bless her! Hope it gets sorted! Some schools are great and others just do nothing. If she moves class then they have won x

[Greensleeves]

Definitely write down everything your daughter has sad, date, time etc. Email her tutor ccing the science teacher and her head of year, asking for someone to call you back to discuss what is going to be done about it.

This way, if the situation escalates (it did for us, very quickly, but it doesn't for everybody) you have an organised record of events and of your own active involvement - this will really help as leverage further down the line if SLT drag their feet.

Sorry you've got this worry, it's an awful feeling. Fingers crossed it doesn't go any further

[greenlynx]

Look up anti bullying policy on the school website, it might have something about whom to contact , but I too second tutor, head of year and science teacher. You can do an email to head of the year and ask for a meeting and CC teacher and tutor. Put it into more formal words to make it more like complaint but try not to blame teacher who could be genuinely unaware of all this.

[Icantfindausername]

Thank you all. I've emailed the school asking for the form tutor to ring me urgently, if they don't ring by this afternoon I will ring them. I am so angry with the little sods!!! xx