DS is a nervous child. He's sensitive and tends to worry. We've tried to find a balance with what we ask him to do. Such as he has to do the Christmas play but we've arranged for a none speaking part. He's very much a home boy and doesn't like change. He hates wrap around care so much I've had to adjust my working hours. This is about to change in January when I start full time work. DS has no idea this is coming!
He's loves all the activities he's done and involved in but we usually get tears and nerves a few days before.
He's getting worse as he gets older and if he had his way he'd go to school, come home and that's it. He has some lovely friends. He's been invited to a group friend sleepover this weekend. He's been to this house lots. His friends are going. I know the parents well, they are lovely and he always has a good time. He's slept out before etc.
The begging to not go is starting. He's not fallen out with anyone he says he's just very nervous. He has lots of things planned with his friends over the Christmas period and I suspect this is the beginning of him trying to get out of things that make him uncomfortable. We'll get the nervous tears for most of these things.
I'm concerned making him go is damaging but he's growing up and needs to spread his wings a bit. DH thinks he's "soft" and should just go. I'm worried pushing him to do it will make him worse but he has to start growing his independence.
How do I deal with this?
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BeerBaby · 07/12/2017 21:13
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