Hi I'm brand new to mumsnet but I'm hoping some other parents will be able to give us some advice.
Our 10 year old daughter is still throwing massive tantrums at home. She is an angel at school and other times but will literally scream the house down at home when shes not happy about something. She gets very anxious about school and her work and puts a great deal of pressure on herself to achieve better than younger sister(we tie ourselves in knots trying to be fair and not make any comparisons)
I asked our GP for a parenting course but this has been cancelled and I have taken some advice from the local CAMHS unit but it's not enough.She refused all counselling. If I take things away from her she sneers at us when they are handed back (even 6 weeks later when I finally returned her ipad)
Last night I resorted to throwing items from her room in the bin every time she screamed - it still didn't stop her- she screamed louder - she went on for 2 hours! So she lost a great deal of her possessions. It felt cruel and I feel ashamed but I have no idea what to do - can anyone help with suggestion on how to discipline her? My husband is supportive and feels the same - we don't know what to do and of course it upsets our younger child who has to witness huge shouting/screaming matches.
We try not to enter into arguments with her when she's like this but she wont stay in her room and just screams and screams until we end up shouting too (and occasionally swearing back which makes us feel even worse.) I feel such a failure as a parent. My mum verbally abused me as a kid and I feel like I've been thrown right back there, but his time acting like my mum did. I'm horrified that all the neighbours must hear these awful meltdowns too - the whole thing makes me feel so ashamed. Any advice is really welcome
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dinomum13 · 11/10/2017 09:49
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