My Dd12 yr 8 went back to school yesterday and all but one girl in her group ignored her, this morning the 'my stomach hurts' comments started again.
Starting yr 7 all girls got on well and there werent any problems but towards the end of yr 7 one of the girls seemed to turn against her. Three of them would catch the bus together but this girl started freezing her out or making snippy comments if my dd tried to instigate or join in a conversation and the second girl would follow suit. My daughter would say she was ill to get out of going to school or beg me to take her and pick her up. Many days she came home and said she felt like a ghost as no one could see her.
Over the summer a few girls would meet up with her and they would spend time in town or at the park (not the two girls from the bus) but now she has gone back even those girls aren't speaking to her. It seems to be on the orders? Suggestion? Of these two girls.
I am lost, I don't know how to help my daughter anymore. Last year I suggested that she was polite to these girls when in the group as not to make people feel to take sides but obviously that never helped. I drove her into school this morning and seeing her shrink into herself more as we got closer to the school made me feel awful. I'm contemplating asking her if she would like to change schools or go in and talking to her head of year but could this make things worse in the long run?
Any advice and coping strategies would be more than welcome.
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ItsAllHarmless · 06/09/2017 10:19
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