DS1 showed me in the bath yesterday that he's got a couple of pubic hairs growing, and was a bit worried about what they were. Felt like a very bad mother for not making him better prepared, but I thought boys usually started later than this!! (FWIW I'm not resistant to telling him stuff, it's just that I've always gone for the 'answer all questions as fully and openly as possible' approach - but he's never asked any! - and when I've tried to start birds and bees type conversations he's never been very interested, so I haven't pushed it.) We had a good calm chat, and I've ordered an Usborne book for him, and plan to chat more with him when that arrives (I didn't want to wallop him with the whole lot in one go!).
Anyway, I feel v naive now, but was surprised that he seems to be starting puberty this early. Is this unusual? He is the tallest in his class, and I've noticed that he's bulked out slightly over the last year (though he's still pretty lanky) - but I'd just assumed that was general growth rather than actual puberty. It doesn't help that he's quite emotionally 'innocent' in a lot of ways (totally un-cool, no interest in being/acting any older than he is), so I think that's contributed to me being a bit taken by surprise.
Anyway, I would be interested to hear others' experiences. Do these first signs means other 'stuff' will happen quite rapidly, or could it take ages? Is there anything else I can do to help him other than tell him what to expect, reassure him that everything's normal, tell him he can always talk to me if he's anxious or confused about anything??
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DS pubic hair age 9 - is this normal, and what's next??
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LapinDeBois · 22/08/2017 22:17
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