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Hairy pre-teen girl

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mummabear1 · 20/06/2017 05:41

Hi everyone

I haven't been on here in a while .....but our problem has remained the same.

My 11yo daughter is very hairy :( Has been all over really since age 4. We've had bloods done and everything is normal. Obviously just some sort of genetic thing. Hubby and I aren't that hairy but I do have a hairy brother and he has a hairy sister so clearly the genes are there on both sides. Such a bummer for DD.

Things didn't really change much until recently. She's always had very hairy arms and legs (including upper thigh) but lately the upper lip has also been a problem. She has a LOT of pubic hair and has done for years along with underarm hair. Even her buttocks are furry. Im so sad for her. She's just started having electrolysis on her lip (and coping so well with beggar all pain relief).

Its mousy brown hair against pale skin which does tan in summer. Not a huge contrast in colour so Id be hesitant with her doing laser in the future. Ive also read too much about laser induced hair growth which would be horrific!

What to do!? She's such a gorgeous girl with a wonderful kind heart but this hair is getting her down. She's so young to be worrying about this sort of thing. Its always commented on and its just heart breaking to not be able to fix this for her.

Anyone on here who was hairy as a tween to have the hair IMPROVE after puberty? Im guessing it will worsen if anything. Im hoping for a small adjustment in something hormonal to even things out a bit. Kind of like how some women get hairy during pregnancy and then it improves afterwards. Think I'm dreaming really ...

Anyone?
Thanks

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SleepFreeZone · 20/06/2017 05:53

I wonder if an antiandrogen pill like Dianette might help? I know I took it when I was in my twenties to help with acne and then they changed it to Yasmin. Might be worth investigating.

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mummabear1 · 20/06/2017 06:17

Thanks Sleep. Yes I wondered this myself and asked at our derm appointment today. I wouldn't be overly happy about putting her on something like that but then again I guess its something she might be putting herself on anyways in a matter of years (yikes!!) The Derm seemed to think it only worked for (20%) of women who had a hormone imbalance which she says my DD doesn't have. She does has a high DHEAS level of 4.0 and the range is 1.0 - 2.0 but then apparently that is normal due to puberty as it naturally rises. No periods yet so I'm guessing things aren't far away. The Derm did point out that she wasn't an expert in this type of thing ($290 down the drain - I did think an Endo was a better person to be referred to but what do I know!?) So frustrating and worrying. I just hope it doesn't get too much worse for her.

People with a hair free bod have no idea how lucky they are! If only we were blondies :(

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Wallywobbles · 20/06/2017 06:34

My 12 year old has lower legs waxed. I read a thread on here that said if you waxed them from the beginning it made a significant difference so we are trying that.

Shaved her pits from 9 onwards. Was very necessary.

She has to wear shorty pants to deal with her bikini line. She can have it waxed when she wants but it's all her choice.

Im having a mixture of laser and electrolysis at the moment but from a dermatologist. The salon one had no impact on most of my body hair. My dermatologist won't do young teens though I think.

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Wallywobbles · 20/06/2017 06:34

I find that hair trimmers were quite good for my top lip.

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silkpyjamasallday · 20/06/2017 07:04

Oh op I understand your concern, I wasn't even overly hairy as a teen, but got picked on for having a moustache and hair on my lower back by girls at my school. I use a roller tweezer for any facial hair, and I just leave the rest, I've come to accept it with age as I can't afford laser hair removal and as DP isn't bothered neither am I. It's so hard to deal with as a young girl though and must be horrible to see your dd suffer, could you get her an at home IPL machine?

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