I've just had a letter telling me dd was weighed and measured at school and is overweight. I am not surprised as she has always been a roundish child, very different from ds who is is a bean pole (as was I as a kid). She has a healthy diet, although she has a sweet tooth and prefers macaroni cheese to kale and lentil salad given the choice - we tease her at home that she eats toast on butter. I find the tips given in the letter frankly patronising. The difficulty I have is that there are no low hanging chocolates I can cut out to help her lose weight - we have skimmed milk, no sugary cereals or drinks, healthy home cooked meals most nights, pizza once a week as a treat (for me as much as anything), puddings only occasionally. She'd not very sporty but does do dance classes, plays quite physically in school with her friends and we recently got a dog so we're walking more than we used to.
I don't want to dent her rather fragile self-confidence (she has always been very aware of being shorter and wider than her stick thin willowy bf). Being on the cusp of puberty I am worried that handling this badly could be more damaging than her being a bit overweight. My aunt died battling anorexia, so I am very conscious of this. Having said that I don't want her picked on for her weight either - especially with her starting secondary school in September and all the associated social complications this can bring. Any advice?
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Happymonster · 26/04/2017 13:35
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