How to deal with a raging 12 (nearly 13) year old

[Sarahb5]

Hi,

Really at a lost with Ds, he has always had a short fuse but over the last couple of months he has made family life unbearable. I know he has had a lot to deal with, changing secondary schools due to bullying, having his first serious girlfriend who has dumped him but is playing mind games with him. He has called me the most awful names, threatened to kill himself etc. I have lost my temper with him a few times with him, which I am ashamed of & am getting help for. We are starting counselling but I just feel so miserable & down about it all. I'm worried about the effect it's having on his younger siblings. Sorry for the long post

[Zippydoodah]

I hear you. My DD is the same age and going through similar. You are not alone. Hope the counselling helps. we're on the waiting list too.

[Sarahb5]

Thanks Zippydoodah, no one tells you how hard this stage is. I always thought I was a strong person but he's turned me into a nervous wreck 😢Hope the counselling helps.

[Brighteyes27]

Don't be too hard on yourself it can be a very tricky stage or it certainly has been in my experience and with many others similar my DS has been like this for awhile and he is 13. it is still ongoing ( he is up and down). Mine has had no bullying issues or girlfriend dumping etc. He is an extremely bright lad behaves at school (but makes minimal effort), socially in front of family brilliantly. Then he comes home and we get both barrels rage, shouting, arguing, pure nastiness, fighting with his sister, bad language then he could be singing a song wanting a cuddle offering to get us a drink then in floods of tears and behaving depressed. They are a mass of hormones and emotions and testing the boundaries dreadfully but underneath they are just vulnerable little boys dealing with immense feelings and pressures.
Everyone has last it with teens or tweens at one time or another or more regardless what they tell you. Hang in there.

[Brighteyes27]

Checkout the teenage threads believe me you are not alone. 💐

[Sarahb5]

Thanks Brighteye, it helps to know you are not the only one, even if I feel it x