DD is 9 and it seems puberty starts to kick in. She gets moody, "don't know what is going on with me", can't decide on choices (like what cereals to eat or which pair of knickers to wear) because everything is a big drama etc. I have a certain amount of sympathy and as long as she behaves in general I ignore it and just offer her to come and talk to me or even to have a good cry. I explained to her that puberty is not an excuse, she still has to maintain her normal polite behaviour and act in a sensible manner but acknowledge that it takes time to learn how to deal with the changes.
DH is slightly different. He is a very logical person and always had issues with non-logic behaviour like getting moody when DD was hungry but didn't say anything. He learned to deal with my mood swings when I have my period but def. now struggles with DD.
He is a single child with no female relatives his own age. So the biggest problem in my view is that he had no close females when growing up and therefore didn't really experienced the joy of a female pre-teen during the onset of puberty. He expect her to toe in line and not take the whirlwind of hormone changes into account. He gets angry fast and I can see he is frustrated.
So, long story short, has anybody come across a book specifically how dads deal with pre-teen girls? I think he may need some reading to calm down and at least acknowledge DD's growing up.