Our DD is a strong personality...popular and liked in her class and generally very sensible, rational and loving. However, at home when things don't go her way, she is asked to do something she doesn't like or she is under time pressure etc. she reacts emotionally and rudely to those around her i.e doesn't know how to manage her emotions and can be very rude to parents, younger brother (hits him as well) or even au pair.
She has some deep rooted beliefs that her younger brother is always treated better, doesn't get punished etc (he is generally very helpful, sensible, accommodating and also academically gifted...which probably exaggerates her feelings by comparing) and therefore, we are unfair to her.
We always try to be fair and firm, have tried consequences for poor behaviour (eg. taking away phone or ipad for a period), being calm but end up managing from situation to situation as her poor behaviour continues. Thi shas been te case for several months now. Sometimes, she gets a hard deal because of the way she talks and reacts but generally if we do not react, she calms down and comes back in 10-20 mins to say sorry.
We don't want this to get worse in teenage years...so was wondering if someone had dealt with a similar situation and had tips/strategies to manage or would recommend seeing a therapist?
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Strategies to manage emotional and short-tempered 11 year old DD
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workingmum9 · 29/12/2016 17:26
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