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DS10 staring at people!(5 Posts)
My son has recently turned 10, I've noticed for a while now, that he stares at people quite a bit. We was at a park yesterday and there were lots of Gypsy's that were throwing glass bottles, swearing and being loud around some of he a school children, who were at the park. I didn't want to attract the wrong attention from them and I explained to him not to stare at people like that, as they are unpredictable. I think he's curious and working out what different people are like, but I've explained to him it can come across as rude, he doesn't always do it, but sometimes it's noticeable. Do I keep correcting him, or is it just something that some children do and he'll grow out of. I know I was always staring at people as a child myself and a man (who had a big birth mark across his face) asked me what I was looking at once, I never stared again after that.
Is it work correcting? Or shall I just leave it?
Thanks in advance!
Keep correcting - he's probably not aware of the fact he's doing it so you need to be on the case until he starts self correcting. Otherwise he's going to annoy or upset a lot of people, as well as potentially putting himself at risk
Nip this in the bud as soon as you can
My eldest child has always done this. It was more noticeable around aged 8.
He STILL does it now . He's 19 , he now turns his head when someone passes .
We were in an area we were unfamiliar with the other day , he did it in front of me . I lost it and said one day he's gonna run into a whole load of trouble because he's " stared " at the wrong person
I'm suprised it hasn't happened before now
It's very worrying
I don't think he realises it can be offensive to some people, he's a very curious boy and asks lots of questions about why people behave a certain way etc, like why some families shout/swear and why we don't. I will keep correcting in the meantime. Thanks for your reply!
Shinyshoes-I think it's a pretty natural instinct to stare, but there are certainly times when it's not good to stare, like the situation we were in. I think children staring are just working out what people are about and how we differ, but as you say, it needs to be nipped in the bud, you only have to stare at the wrong person and put yourself in a difficult situation.