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Worried about immaturity in 10 year old!

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Tippytoes13 Mon 04-Jul-16 11:33:35

Hi,
My son has recently turned 10, but I'm still concerned about his immature behaviour at home. Firstly, he acts very immature when with our younger son, who is 5. He snatches things from his younger brother, he was trying to take some string from his brother, that he was happily playing with yesterday and was just generally acting aloof, although some of the time he was fine. He's not very imaginative either and if he's not watching TV, playing on a computer game (which we limit), he finds it hard to entertain himself and constantly asks to be taken out. I think a lot of his immature behaviour, might be attention seeking and boredom. His teacher has also said he's at a lower maturity than his class peers. As he is starting year 6 in September, I am eager for him to act more mature, but not sure how to encourage that. He can be trusted to walk down to the local shop and cross roads by himself, so in some ways he does have the maturity there.

If anyone has any advice, it would be appreciated.

Thank you!

Mycraneisfixed Mon 04-Jul-16 11:45:11

Just reading the title I knew it'd be about a boy! Teasing his brother is mean but common. He's bored. Play board games with just him. Sort out playdates for weekends, meet up after school with other mums of boys in a park. Boys are often silly but they start maturing when the go to secondary school.

GooodMythicalMorning Mon 04-Jul-16 11:50:01

Mine is the same except I cant even trust him to cross roads by himself. He shows no awareness whatsoever.

Tippytoes13 Mon 04-Jul-16 22:18:45

Thanks Mycraneisfixed-Yes I think it's a boredom thing too. We have three children, ones just turned 1, so play dates at the weekend are tricky and we often spend time as a family, as my husbands not working. He often plays at the park after school with his friends, it's weekends that are tricky, my younger son is happy to play and potter around in the garden, but my older son gets bored very easily and he gets fed up of being around his brother, which is understandable as there's quite a big age gap. Have also tried playing board games alone with him, or Top Trumps, but he says they're boring now. He's happiest playing with his friends, but obviously that can't happen all the time.
GooodMythical-It took a while to trust my son to cross the road on the way and from the shop, but I knew he was pretty aware of the dangers. I've seen children older than him cross the road and take such risks it worries me still, but I think letting him do it for himself, he knows he has to be extra vigilant, as he doesn't have me there. I've always drummed into him as well, how dangerous roads are.

baking4life Tue 05-Jul-16 16:37:42

This just sounds like many children his age to me i would not think this is something very concerning. However if you don't want this type of behaviour then you could do things like say he can't watch TV go on laptop etc for a week . wink

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