What to do- party inviting?

[SnowyDeer]

So, DD is planning 13th party and wondering whether she should invite A.
DD was friends with A last year but they drifted remaining friends but not very close. There are limited numbers and DD has been unable to invite A. Unfortunately, A, DD and another girl walk home together now and she is inviting the other girl as they are good friends. A is very mixed about whether she like DD and did not seem to enjoy a similar party from the looks of it. The only problem is would she be excluding her?

[pippistrelle]

So, do they just happen to live in the same direction as each other, but don't hang out together at school? If so, I think it's okay not to invite. But a complicating factor might be if A is friendlier with the other girl they walk home with than she is with your daughter. But if A just has the same sort of friendly'ish relationship that she has with your daughter, then I don't think there could be any hard feelings, as long as your daughter and friend aren't going to be banging on about how great her party will be/was on the walk home. If your daughter will want to talk about it then, the kindest thing would be to invite her.

(Pre-teen friendships can be such a minefield, can't they?)

[SnowyDeer]

Thanks pipistrelle. A and the other girl are quite friendly. They went to the same primary school. DD does want to "keep it on the down low". Maybe she should tell her about the party and do something seperate with A?

[Jinglebells99]

I don't understand what you mean when you say she's been unable to invite her, why not and why are you asking? The kind thing to do would be to invite A. She could then decline if she doesn't want to do it. If they walk home together, they are friends surely. I think it would be really mean to leave her out.

[SnowyDeer]

It is a sleepover and there is only so much room

[SnowyDeer]

Let me rephrase. It's a sleepover in a tent and only so many could fit. Your right jingle bells it would be mean but I'm not sure if you'd call them friends as they often disagree on things.

[Cocochoco]

I would get her to invite who she wants but to be aware there may possibly be consequences. However my dd hasn't been invited to a few things this year - y7 - and it doesn't seem to have affected her friendships with the girls who left her out. I think they all get that it's not possible to invite everyone.