My 11 year old and my DH are having nightly stand-offs which escalate to being out-of-control with swearing and hitting from her and - after a brief attempt at staying calm - bellowing, bad language and smacks from him. I have to intervene physically to keep them apart. Have seen school and Dr about DD behaviour - there is nothing wrong health wise and her friendships are OK. DD is depressed but this doesn't excuse his lack of control or his refusal to take responsibility for the aftermath of the row or for addressing his own role in it. After each explosion he behaves as if nothing has happened leaving me to raise the subject which I do. At wits end. we are seeing family therapist with DD but she is a mum at the school and I am embarrassed to give her the full picture. May see her on my own. Should I involve the police next time? (seems extreme and round us they have enough to do). Do I ask DH to move out for a while? we have two younger kids who witness this. Am I complicit if I don't take action? I have told DH tonight if it happens again he will have to leave.
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