I have posted before about dd and friends but the situation is no better and wondering if anyone can give some advice how to deal with things.
She is 12, Year 7 at an all girls school. She is very good friends with 'A' in her class who is a very nice popular girl and the friendship seems to be mutual. A is also good friends with 'B' who seems to be not so nice. A and B are together in class a lot so dd feels a bit pushed out. Whenever they have to get into pairs or groups, B always makes a beeline for A. Dd tells me that sometimes B pre-arranges with A before the lesson to go together if that lesson requires it. It all sounds a bit childish to me.
On one occasion, A said to save a seat for dd who was running late and B was overheard to have said 'don't bother'.
B also seems to put down dd with hurtful, snippy comments. Dd choreographed a group dance for a music project recently, B said it was very basic and implied anyone could have done it. When dd was in a quiz recently, B said that anyone could have answered the questions. She just doesn't have anything nice to say about dd and dd said she feels she puts her down and makes her feel bad about herself.
I have encouraged dd to make friends with the other girls in the class which she tries to do but they all seem to be in groups and dd thinks they're not bothered about her.
This has been going on for much of the year and it's now coming to the end of Year 7 and dd still feels unhappy. She would love to spend more time with A at school but it's very difficult if A and B are joined at the hip. Dd and A do sometimes manage to get together out of school but it's the day to day school stuff that's really the issue.
Has anyone got any ideas?
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Dancergirl · 01/07/2015 14:00
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