I would dearly love the view of other parents who have been through this stage. DD best friend who is also 9yrs old wears crop tops, hot pants, full make up and mini skirts and is heavily influencing my dd to do the same. Her parents are very relaxed about these things, and that is their call, but I am not comfortable with my own DD wearing any of this. My DD is a tomboy by nature, does not feel comfortable in make up or sexy tops etc, but loves her friends and does not want to be the odd one out. My view is that we should not be sexualising children particularly at this age.
I have tried compromising with clear lip gloss (rosy vaseline) and shorts with tights but feel I am fighting a losing battle, when she comes home with a face full of make up, back combed sprayed hair and has been wearing a bra (!) when out with friends and their parents. I do not want to isolate her from her friends, and make life difficult. We have always encouraged her to choose her own style and clothes, but I do have my limits. DD is very tall already, developing and in a age 13-14 clothes, it is really worrying me as she looks twice her age. My instinct is to put my foot down, level with her on what is acceptable and stick with it, and to follow her own style. DH sitting on a fence, and I could do with some support. Any thoughts?
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Heartofgold25 · 28/02/2015 09:56
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