I'd appreciate hearing what other Mom's have to say on this topic.
I work full time and currently have to leave the house at 7.30. DD should leave at 7.10 and ds leaves at 8am. DS has had countless lates to school so I'm wondering whether I should stay back and make sure he leaves the house on time but this will mean that they are left alone in the house for 1/2 an hour in the evening.
We all get home around 5.30 currently but I can't rely upon my ds getting to school on time and feel that I should now be at home for a few months to make sure that he learns this responsibility.
Is it ok to leave them both alone at night from 5.30-6pm?
I often leave my 10 and 12 year old at home for periods far longer than 1/2hr. the other option would be to make your DS leave the house when you do - I'm sure he can find something to occupy himself with in the school library
it wouldn't be any different, I'm just trying to think of different ways of doing it as stbxh complains that they are being left at home alone to fend for themselves.
I had thought about making sure he leaves the house at the same time as me, and yes he has things he can do at school.
It's just difficult to know what to do sometimes, especially when his father complains at everything I do. I just want to do the right thing for them and don't want anyone to think that I'm neglecting them.
lol, oldbeanbagz he already is moaning about being that! he's lost his job and I have to work the new years week so he's going to be with them, he likened it to cheap childcare in front of the judge!! didn't go down too well he he.
In all seriousness though I don't want him doing that otherwise he'll try to claim he's the primary carer and try to weedle his way back into the house! he's no good for them at the moment, too much anger and no control over it, just tries to exert control over me instead!
I think that I'll endeavour to get him to leave at 7.45 with me, I can get a later train but it will mean that I can possibly get home for 5.45, that way they won't be on their own too long.
My DC were coming home for half an hour or so before me in Y6 3 days a week with no problems. He wasn't allowed to have friends back as there were no adults around and couldn't use the cooker/toaster/kettle/microwave. Once in Y7, he was allowed to use the toaster/microwave.
I agree, better to get him up and out and make sure all is locked up properly - they are fine getting back in and if you leave them a snack, they will be able to just sit and watch TV!
I think at 11 we let them walk to school alone, go out with their friends etc. Alone in the house is much safer than these things!! I leave DD 11 for an hour or so in the day/early evening while I shop, but I would not leave her alone for a whole evening. An hour or so after school would be fine.. I say no answering door, if anything happens go next door, she knows my mobile number.