DD is 10 (11 next week) and I don't think I have ever heard her apologise spontaneously for anything and it's driving me bananas. For example, she was climbing on a fence whilst we were waiting in line for something, just generally being a bit of a buffoon, I'd asked her to be careful and told her to stop climbing, eventually having to raise my voice slightly to get her to stop before she hurt herself and her brother. So she jumped down without looking and landed on her brothers foot and knocked him over, so then he was in tears, I told her off and rather than just admitting she was in the wrong I got all sorts of excuses 'you told me to get down' I didn't know he was in the way', 'he was behind me' just generally - it's not my fault. It never ever is!!!!
That's just one of many examples, I've explained that sometimes a sorry can do wonders to diffuse a situation, but she never ever says it unless under extreme pressure, another example was whilst away on holiday, she had misbehaved and refused to apologise because 'she hadn't done anything' the situation escalated with more cheek on her part so I ended up taking her to the room until she could apologise. We were there 3 hours. And that was only because I virtually forced her to apologise.
Is this a big deal? It really feels like it is, I also think apologising and learning when to apologise is a bit of a life lesson that I am somebody failing to teach her. To be honest her staunch refusal to accept when she is in the wrong makes me really dislike her little personality at times and I love her so much I don't want to feel like that.
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SeattleGraceMercyDeath · 28/08/2014 13:02
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