I have a dd, 12. She's an only child and has no other family who are in touch on a regular basis. I've always encouraged her to value her friends, but increasingly they seem to be shutting her out. She's not "cool" but is a nice kid (I think) and is finding it hard to eal with the rejection. This has happened a few times on instagram etc: kids ignoring her or going out in the "gang" without her.
She's sporty so has other things to do. Sje's also quite full on and energetic. She's constantly looking for things to do, and will spend time with someone she doesn't particularly like rather than be on her own.
She doesn't read, draw or play with loom bands etc, despite my best efforts to enjoy her own company. She's independent butvdoesn't want to go places on her own.
She doesn't particularly enjoy being with me either.
How can I get her to value her own company more? Her friends are nice enough girls in the main: a mixed bag, a bit flighty, more confident in the main than dd, some a bit mean.
I'm afraid that she's making herself look a bit needy and desperate if she continues to crave the company of girls who do not crave her company in return!
I don't understand how to deal with this as I was (and still am) very different myself, enjoying my own company and able to occupy myself happily.
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springchickennolonger · 12/08/2014 08:59
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