DD has just turned 11. Spends half her time with me and half with her dad (her choice, not mine).. I'm really at the end of my tether with her. She is not naughty as such but very lazy and self centred. She drops things, never puts anything away, never helps out and if I asked I get eye rolls, huffing puffing etc.. If I ask her to do something I have to remind her at least 3 times! I can yell, get angry, ground her.. nothing changes it. She will go to do something and be distracted by something else..
She ruined yesterday with her attitude, she reduced me to tears. I'm in the final few weeks of my degree and I gave up work time Saturday so she go in to town with her mates (I had to hang around in a cafe for their saftey) and two came back to our house until 9pm.. yet it wasn't enough and sunday she wanted to go to the cinema with them, when told no it was the usual preteen response and I blew.
She is disorganised, forgets things.. pays no attnetion to anything and I cannot take much more of her behaviour.. it's like caring for a much younger child with the attitude of a teen. I've had a text tonight saying she forgot her dance leotard DESPITE me telling her last night to make sure she has everything she needs and again this morning and her telling me she has done so?!!?
She is also over weight, despite my best efforts to slim her down.. This is getting me down and it breaks my heart to say it, but I'm ashamed and believe people will think I'm a lazy or bad parent. I believe this is happening at her grandparents and/or dad's house. She doesn't seem to care and is forever asking for food.. I know growing kids eat more but she is not hungry, just eating for the sake of it. I'm contemplating taking her to our GP...
I know this all may sound trivial to some but as there is only the two of us in the house and I'm under pressure as it is, I can't handle her laziness and attitude on top of other things. I've been nagging and nagging for years, something has got to give and I feel it will be me!
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tink82 · 31/03/2014 16:36
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