Ever since she was a small child our daughter (nearly 12) has been very anxious about small things. She cannot bear to be around people when they eat - the sound really bothers her. She cannot sleep in the same room as others, she only wears certain clothes (she complains of skin sensitivity, being uncomfortable) she can't bear people tapping their foot, swinging their legs.
We try not to pander to this - but the thought she will have to share a room can make her collapse in tears. She has to eat at the table with all of us and is fine as long as the conversation flows and she can ignore the sounds.She sleeps with an eyemask and sometimes earplugs.
I have heard this is a real condition and only gets worse without treatment. it is related to sound sensitivity.
We are walking on eggshells because of her outbursts surrounding these issues. I do quite a lot to avoid her having to deal with it - and for a quiet harmonious home.
She is now becoming quite combative with all of us. She is very negative about most things and will be extremely critical, particularly to me.
She is a bright girl, used to being top of the class and has just started secondary school.She also has plenty of friends, plays an instrument and is involved in school life. She can also be very loving and sweet - but those times are being overshadowed by her critical outbursts.
I think she needs to be in control because of these anxieties. her anger at us is in some way related to her need to control her surroundings. She constantly asks questions about what we are doing and why, she hates to be unprepared for something. The day has to be planned out.
I really feel that if the anxieties were cured or dealt with better, it would improve her general negative outlook.
I actually feel terribly sad for her because I think she is struggling to look normal often , when she is actually seething and feeling very out of control underneath and she doesn't understand why. especially because she is often told her worries are nothing to be concerned about.
I have never looked in to this before - hoping she would grow out of it. But i wonder if the GP will be able to refer her for CBT which is apparently very useful. or is there a good book we can be referred to. Most of the books I have found relate to general anxiety - but she isn't worried about the world, illness or divorce. She is worried about foot tapping and chewing noises. it seems much different.
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whatdoesittake48 · 04/11/2013 11:26
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