Hi, I don't post very often here but I am at a complete loss and could really do with some advice. My ds is 12 and at the moment I'm really struggling with him. This time last year I discovered he was watching porn on his net book. I talked to him about it and took it away from him. Gradually he earned it back but went straight back to watching porn so it was removed completely. I admit it was probably my fault for not having parental control on it but I'm a bit of a technophobe and didn't know how to do that.
So, net book was completely removed from him and then one day I decided to look through his phone and what do I find only lots of porn downloaded. As far as I was aware he only used the phone as an alarm for school, he didn't seem bothered with it at all so I was completely shocked. I didn't even realise his phone was capable of this as it was just a cheapie I'd got him so his dad could contact him. So I took his phone and disabled all internet access on it. It can now be used only for calls and texts.
I told his dad what was going on at this stage. I was pretty hysterical tbh, this was hardcore porn he was watching and he seemed addicted to it. Anyway, the next time he was with his dad for the weekend he had a serious chat with him. Told him porn wasn't real life and that he shouldn't be watching it as that's not what love and sex were about. I then had a chat with ds, along the same lines. I asked him when he felt the need to be watching this all the time but all he could say was 'I don't know' over and over again.
That was all a few months ago and I thought we'd got through to him. Roll on this morning, I don't know what made me do it but I switched on his xbox. I had no idea there was a browser on that, I thought it was just for gaming. Lo and behold what do I find only that the history is full of porn. I have no idea how to get the dates up on the history but I presume it's recently. All that's in the history is porn, nothing else. I feel sick, I really do. I've sat and cried for the last 20 minutes and now I'm just angry. So angry. I don't know what to do. I'm scared. What is wrong with my son? This isn't normal and to be totally honest I think I've had enough of him. The way I'm feeling right now I want to pack his bags and send him to live with his dad. I honestly don't want to look at him and I'm dreading him coming home from school because I know for a fact I'll get no answers from him and I'll just lose my temper and shout. I'm at the end of my tether here. He's 12!!
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NoMoreDoormat · 04/11/2013 10:52
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