Do super tall children always become super tall adults?(43 Posts)
Ds1 was 61cms at birth. He has always been tall but now that he is 12 he really sticks out. He reached 6ft tall at 11y10m (184cms).
Can anybody tell me - from a physiological perspective if this means he is going to be a very tall adult? The calculators say he will be 200cms - I feel quite sad for him as this means he will always stand out like a sore thumb. People gape at him now and he hates it.
Or is there a chance he will be normal height?
I was a tall child but I stopped growing at 11 and I am 5'3. My brother however was always a very tall child and is now 23 and 6'4.
Well, dd1 was a long baby and a tall, skinny child and at 18 is now 5'10. We think she's still growing too!
It's the hormonal changes during puberty which accelerates and eventually slows down growth. It's also pretty interesting how bones fuse at the end of puberty and eventually stops growth also affects the body's suppleness hence why sports such as gymnastics is relative short lived
Alpine that's right dcs will attain the majority of their height in the couple of years leading up to puberty then once puberty hits the hormonal balance changes causing the bones to literally fuse together and growth becomes very slow and eventually stops. Generally most girls will only grow a couple more inches once their periods start. The sleeping patterns of teenagers reflect those of babies in that they need more sleep due to the amount of energy needed to grow so letting your teenagers sleep in is no bad thing.
My cousin is v nearly 2m. Never stared at as not so tall to stand out, honestly. Main pain for him is seating- plants, trains, cars.. Also hotel beds, low doorways etc. he copes though!
Your ds may well just be an early developer.
My brother was your son. The others caught up. Some overtook, most didn't. Of course we parents worry.
What I would just say is to watch his posture. I'm sure you do, but my bro used to compensate by slouching down, and he ended up with back and neck stiffness. Painful too sometimes at school. Wrong height furniture as assumed they would be smaller.
dd1 was always one of the tallest in her class and ds always one of the shortest. Despite there being only two years between them, I've got pictures of them at 10 and 8 where dd looks a good five years older than her brother, she looks about 14 and he could pass for seven. Now they are both grown, he's 6'4 and she's almost a foot shorter.
I was the tallest in my class, 5ft 6 at about 10 years old with size 6 feet. The only thing that's grown since then are my boobs!
There seems to be some evidence that boys who grow early stop early. Those who have their growth spurts later grow for longer.
I've seen this with my boys. Ds1 was one of the tallest in his year at 12. Now at 19 he is 6'2' and many of the smaller ones have caught up and overtaken him. Ds2 was one of the smallest at 12, now at 15 he is overtaking and still growing.
With girls it seems to be more straightforward, and related to the height they were when they started periods.
Having said that, if he does get very tall direct him to a sport like rowing, where they will love him and he will be among guys who are proud to be tall.
I worked in an endocrinology clinic and the accepted wisdom for most children was you did the majority of your growing prior to puberty and once that happened: start of periods for girls, voice breaking for boys then you would only grow a bit more as hormonal changes during puberty causes the bones to fuse together. Also height in children is accelerated by obesity as is the start of puberty so some overweight children will be very tall for their age but won't be that tall in adulthood.
I was very tall and skinny in primary school. The tallest. I'm 5'8 now, but I reckon I must have grown very quickly at one point as I have been this height since about the age 13 I was a 14 year old skinny beanpole with horizontal stretch marks up the outside of my skinny thighs. ( I'm not skinny now though. Quite the opposite! )
DH has presence because of his height
mine too. People trust him and defer to him.
I have anecdotal stuff too.
When I started secondary school I was shorter than average - less than 5' probably - & there were girls in my year who were already 5'5 - 5'7. But they never got any taller, while I shot up at 14 & ended up at 6'
DD1 was always tiny (10th centile) & grew very very slowly but is now 5'7; DD2 was 75th centile - she is 3 years younger than DD1 but was only slightly shorter throughout childhood. She is now 5'7 too
So very tall children might or might not end up very tall adults.
MrRected oh god, people always make stupid comments about &everything^. If he had red hair or interesting coloured eyes they'd comment. When people say to me, "gosh you're tall," I just say, "yes, I grew." It reminds them that, y'know, these things happen.
DH is 6ft 5 and Australian where it seems more common to be taller. He always gets comments but because he thinks being tall is a positive thing he's not bothered. I always joke that I grew a couple of inches (am average) after I met him because he never bent down to me, I always stretched up to him.
Being tall can be brilliant. DH has presence because of his height. On holiday, we were walking along the street and he was talking on his phone and laughing. A little old lady grabbed my arm and hissed: Is he a film star? I replied (while trying not to bust a gut laughing): No dear, just Australian.
In your DS's place, if someone says, you're tall, he just replies with a smile, and you're small.
Give him some comebacks. I have 3 DCs who will probably be very tall and I always make it seem like the best thing to be. I want them to walk tall and be proud of their height. May be as a teen it's hard to be a bit different, but as an adult it can be great in love and work life.
DS was tall since birth. He was always in clothes 2 or 3 years older than his actual age.
However at 15 he seems to have slowed down, or even stopped growing in height. He is now (I think) 6ft 1". I am 5ft 9" and his dad is 6ft 2".
he does, however, have huge feet - 12. But his feet have stayed the same size for the past 3 years, so I am hoping that is it.
Some DC have their growth spurt earlier than others.
DSS is a year older than DS, and at one point was shorter than DS. But he shot up almost a foot in one year, and now towers over all of us.
Don't worry about it. More and more people are tall nowadays. It's a good thing
I wouldn't worry about it as there's nothing you can do about it and it's impossible to predict.
DH and DBIL are both 6' 1". DBIL was tall from he was a small child.
DH was average and then had a massive growth spurt when he hit puberty.
It's a good thing to be tall especially for a man. I am a short arse and I hate it.
Thanks for that pearl of wisdom Trills. As a mum I do worry.
I don't say anything to him. He does get tired of people constantly going on about his height - i know he does because he tells me so. To clarify, when I say he sticks out like a sore thumb is just a turn of phrase.
I think if you rather than just ask for anecdotes you should speak to your GP, perhaps without DS to start with.
My DS2 had the opposite issue in his early teens when he was absolutely tiny and had also plummeted down the growth charts from above average to below the lowest curve. Our GP referred him to an endocrinologist. One of the first things they do (v straightforward) is bone age from an x ray. If your DS had this you might find he has a bone age well ahead of his chronological age and is unlikely to grow much more which would give you reassurance without the need for anything more. There are a huge variety of children in an endocrinology outpatients clinic but I certainly saw some children who were very tall and would assume they were there for that reason, though as DS was at other end of spectrum I'm not sure what intervention they could make and whether it would be something you would want for a child.
I was always the tallest at primary school. taller then the boys and most teachers. I am now only 5'7" so not even tall by adult standards.
DD1 was very tall. Aged 3 in age 5 clothes, aged 6 in age 9-10 clothes. She is now 5'7" at 17, still time to grow but probably not.
I think you are being unfair saying he sticks out like a sore thumb. Yes 6' at 11-12 is tall but not at age 18. His growth may settle down and he will notice school friends catch up and even pass his height.
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