DS is a bit 'eccentric' (as noticed by his teacher back in Year 2). He had disordered speech and language as a pre-schooler, but was not diagnosed with ASD or anything like that and contrary to expectations ended up at a mainstream secondary where, academically, he has done fine. He is currently in year 4.
However, he does cubs, but sits out the team games looking sad, even when the leaders try to include him. His range of things that he will eat is getting smaller and he won't try new foods. He had developed a fear of the fire alarm going off in school and is afraid to go in certain classrooms as the bell is near where he sits and he hates loud noises. (he still has a fear of balloons popping).
He loves animals and is gentle and kind with our cats, hamster, rabbits and fish. He is happiest on his own with them or with us.
Basically, he is a funny, loving little boy but he hates school and just doesn't seem to fit in with other children. He doesn't seem to know how to play or interact with others, although he will play for hours with our DD (12).
I have tried having other boys over for tea / playing / film nights etc. but he can't seem to cope in a group and ends up crying in his room as it is too noisy or they are 'touching his toys'. He can fixate on one friend at a time who then goes off to play with others and he can't cope.
I am afraid that this is getting worse and I don't know how to help him. DD says that he is just not a 'team player' - which is fine if you're an adult, but we have years of school yet. Has anyone been in a similar situation or have any ideas?
Sorry for the marathon post - it's been a bad day. Thanks.
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dogrosie · 04/06/2013 19:55
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