I need some advise on worrying behaviour my 13 yr old DD2 is displaying. She has been 'appropriating' stuff from me and has been stealing stuff (including money) from other members of our household. She's been talked to (especially about the money), but has never admitted to anything or is vague about things (she 'thought it would be ok to have so-and-so in her room'). She hasn't done anything (that I know of) for a few weeks, but I found make-up and some other stuff from mine in her room today. She is not being denied any make-up or anything, and gets regular pocket-money.
She is hormonal but has not started her period yet, she is healthy and generally happy, does really well at school and has good friends. She and I do not always have the best relationship; she has always been very clingy and emotionally dependent on me (basically from birth), but pushes me away as well and could (can) have the most phenomenal tantrums about anything. With me she lives in a busy household, with sister, 2 stepbrothers (similar ages) and stepdad, her dad lives 2 hrs drive away and since a few months there are serious mental health issues with her stepmum (there are no stepsiblings there).Possibly a divorce is happening there, but as her dad and I hardly speak, I do not know what's going on.
I have been rather mild with her, although she had a severe telling off for the money that we know she took, but I'm at a loss what to do now. I am inclined to confront her with the newest findings, but she will probably deny everything and be very cross with me for going through her stuff (the cheek!). I am worried that the situation with her stepmum is really upsetting her very much, but finds it difficult to talk to me about it, because of the difficulties I have had discussing anything with her dad. I would love her to open up towards me, like her older sister does, and I'm afraid that being angry with her for taking my stuff is not helping her do that. I don't think this can continue however, I don't want a child stealing and being dishonest. Any advise??????
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riet · 25/05/2013 13:37
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