Please can some more experienced parent tell me where I am going wrong? Tearing my hair out here.
I am having constant (and I mean constant) battles with DD (9yrs) over the same, very basic, non-negotiable issues: ie bathing/showering, teeth and hair brushing, homework, getting things school books/bag ready the night before.
She does anything and everything to wriggle out of doing the above and then when challenged, immediately switches to "massively defiant" setting - with no opportunity for reasonable discussion in between.
I've tried understanding/calm persuasion/reward charts/consequences etc etc NOthing seems to work. I've resorted to shouting which is horrible and stressful for everyone but is the only thing that seems to work
We always have a calm discussion after the disagreement; I tell her the reasons why I got so cross etc and she appears to understand. And then, the very next time, she does exactly the same thing. Arrrrggghhh!!!
What gets me is that these are just the basic things. I have got to the point where I hesitate to ask her to do anything to help me around the house (however small a task) because it causes such horrible rows.
And we often don't get to the "fun" stuff - because we are still battling over the basics
I loathe ineffectual parenting (esp. with only one child) but it appears I am practicing exactly that!
Does anyone have any ideas/advice please?
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superfluouscurves · 22/04/2013 09:47
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