DS 10 being bullied(2 Posts)
My DS is 10 and is the youngest in his year (needed to add that as he is a little immature emotionally. For the last couple of weeks he has been having trouble at school. He would come out of school moody and argumentitive which is very unlike him. Turns out that some of the boys and girls in his class are name calling him. They were picking on two girls in the year but the teacher had a word with the whole year group and it stopped but now they are picking on DS.
It is name calling eg: don't sit next to him he has fleas etc. I know that this may seem silly and I have tried telling him to ignore it but he is finding it hard. We have had the odd occassion where he did not want to go to school.
He is particulary friendly with two boys one of which is his best friend but even the other one has not been kind to him.
DH and I spoke to his teacher and a few days ago again the teacher spoke to the class(did not name names) and said bullying has to stop but still DS is having problems.
It was the school disco tonight and he got ridiculed as he had dressed up for halloween and most of the others hadn't. The usual boys were calling him loser and this made him sad and upset.
I just do not know what to do now. I feel like confronting these boys and telling them they are making my son's life a misery I am so angry. I know it is only name calling and I have said to him that he needs to toughen up a bit as next year he will be in big school but I am concerned that this will affect him.
He is a very bright boy and always does well at school and the two ringleaders are both the "naughty" boys in the class.
Please can someone give me advice on what to do next because I am really worried about him. He is normally a chatty sunny natured boy who can sometimes be a bit bossy and I am sure that may annoy the odd boy but he is my son and I feel so sad for him.
I wouldn't confront the boys - that gives them more power as they'll realise they're getting to him.
I'd speak to the teacher again. Chances are the boys are jealous of your ds - can you speak to him along these lines? Say they're probably unhappy and that's why they have to make other people feel sad. Don't empower them, pity them.
Encourage him to laugh off name calling, eg shrug and make a yawning gesture.
Invite his good friend round and generally make a fuss of him.
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