I wonder if anyone out there has a similar situation to mine, as I don't understand it and don't know what to do. My 12 yr old DD (only child) has been to two primaries, both good ones, and is now in secondary school. She had 1 friend in the first school, but said all the other girls would always refuse to let her join in games. In the end she the school tried to help, but it didn't make much difference.
The next primary, everyone seemed interested in her at the start but sadly the same thing happened again, and birthday parties, outings, visits to friends - she didnt get invited. She was often alone in the playground and got taunted a bit. Other girls seemed v nice but didnt want her in their groups. I spoke to the school about it in Yr 6 as she was so lonely, and then some of the girls tried to include her (but I'm sure because they were specifically asked to).
On to secondary school, and it's the same. She is a nice kid, kind hearted, a bit quiet and not good in crowds. Her self confidence was better when younger, as now she believes she is unlikeable. She also says she is ugly and fat, although she is slim and pretty. She has always found schoolwork difficult and believes that other kids think she is stupid - she is also a bit of a daydreamer.
She refuses to join anything outside school. She has zero confidence and in the last year has become really frightened of lots of things, more acutely self conscious, and a bit paranoid. She says other girls at school make faces when she talks as if to say 'she's really weird' .
She isnt experiencing the things other girls are, like normal socialising, going round each others houses, trips to shops and cinemas, that sort of thing. All she has really is her home life and going to school.
I just wonder when it is going to get better. She wakes up unhappy, not a smiley happy girl like she could be. It all doesnt make sense, and no one is able to tell me why this happens, and keeps happening - the schools don't know - my daughter doesn't know - does this ever get better? I wish I could help her but nothing I have done seems to work. Any advice would be great please!
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princesscasino · 16/06/2011 11:01
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