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dustyteddy · 27/03/2009 09:45

DS is 3.5 and at two different setting's, a nursery and a preschool. He seems to have to settled happily that preschool, which he attends 3 mornings a week. However, at the nursery, which he attends for 2 mornings, 4 hours each session, he seems to be unhappy. He had a major meltdown today when I took him to nursery and did not want to go, and kept asking to go back to preschool.

I feel I should take him out of the nursery on those 2 mornings. We only started him there because he didn't have place at preschool on thurs/fri. I will have to give a months notice to the nursery and I am dreading having to take him for the next month. This morning he wanted to make himself physically sick. It was awful. I feel like a bad mummy for making him go.

Do you think I should make him go for the next month, or just take him out now? He has only been at nursery for 6 months. So perhaps he just needs more time to settle? I'm just rather confused at what I should do for the best.

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captainpig · 27/03/2009 10:42

If it were me I would take him out now and not make him go for the last month.

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Rollmops · 27/03/2009 11:11

If he had been going to the nursery for 6 DAYS I'd say, perhaps he would need a bit more time, but 6 MONTHS???!!!! How long would you drag the poor kid to a place he is clearly not happy at to be finally able to decide?

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dustyteddy · 27/03/2009 11:14

In all fairness, Rollmops. He has only started this behaviour in the last month. He seemed to be enjoying it before that. Also, when I go to collect him, he seems to be happily playing with the other children.

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BetsyBoop · 27/03/2009 14:13

DT - has something happened to upset your DS?

My DD started hating going to preschool, begging me not to leave her, after previously having loved it. After a week of this I eventually managed to get it out of her that a boy had been repeatedly pinching her arm - when I spoke to other parents I found out that he'd also bitten another girl previously .

DD's keyworker was great and ensured that DD & boy were kept well apart & kept a close eye on DD & eventually (it took a few weeks) DD settled back down again. (In fact DD now lists keyworker in her "list" of people she loves!)

(Said boy has since had to leave the preschool - another incident - 3 strikes & you're out rule)

That said, if you are pulling DS out anyway, there's probably not much point in making him miserable for a money