Reluctant to go to Nursery

[landlubber]

Hi there, my first time of posting, so here goes.

My 3 1/2 year old goes to Nursery 3 days a week, I have one day off, and a friend with her own child looks after him in our house the other day.

For a long time now he has asked whether each day is a school day and said he doesn't want to go. Until recently once in the car he was happy and shot into school without looking back. However for at the moment he has become very insistent about not wanting to go. I've asked at school if there are any problems, and they say not, but maybe he'll find it easier when he goes 5 days. I've talked to him gently not wanting to make it an issue,and he says he would rather stay at home and have his friends come to play. He is fine when I pick him up and his normal energetic, sociable self except for the school mornings, when it is getting more and more difficult to get him to the car, sometimes just flatly refusing.

I'm really a bit stuck to know what to do about this, I am going to talk to his teachers again today to let them know it has become a real problem now instead of what I thought was just part of his morning routine.

Any wise words of wisdom please ?

Cheers, Landlubber

[FrannyandZooey]

is there an alternative you could try if this carries on? it might be a good idea to have some other form of childcare up your sleeve

[MissTrixie]

I've been having the same problem with my 3 yr old (4 in 2 weeks). I asked her why & she said she didn't like the boys, I spoke to the nursery who said she didn't really mix with them anyway etc etc.

At the end of the day I don't really know why she doesn't like going any more. Could be she's bored - could this be the same for you too? Maybe get an idea of the activities they'll be doing & entice him with those? Or invite other kids for lunch? Or promise the park afterwards?

I tell DD that her friends will miss her if she doesn't go. I daren't let her off the hook because that would just be too dangerous a precedent to set. BTW she already goes 5 days.

She is better now than 2 months ago, so I am really hoping it's just a phase. You have all my sympathy. It's a horrible situation.

Cheers, Jules

[dylsmum1998]

hi
this seems to be a phase unfortunately that some children go through. i was a cm before i had my dd and some of the children did this, very distressing for all involved in the mornings. but the dc would then be fine as soon as i shut the front door and mum went to work. on days when the parents werent at work i sometimes popped round for a chat and drink etc to their houses( we all got on well) the children would cry cos i didnt take them with me when i left!
have also got friends who work in nursery, and friends whoo use different childcares and they to have had this.

no words of wisdom just sympathy at this awkward situation. are you able to arrive at nursery at different, unscheduled times so you can see your lo playing and help rest your mind that they are ok? something i always welcomed parents to do. would sometime find them spying through the window before they knocked LOL