Hi all. This is my first post on mumsnet . I’m having concerns about my child’s nursery and wanted to get other mum’s opinions before I approach the nursery. I’m really sorry for the essay I am about to write!
My son started nursery just after his 2nd birthday in September. He’s settled into nursery well and seems happy there. He is developing well and has learnt a lot since being there so I am encouraged by that.
But I do have issues with the nursery, here’s what’s been happening. Firstly he is never in any of the nurseries Facebook posts. Sounds silly but Every time I see a post I hope he might be featured in it, but no. It upsets me as I’d love to see what he’s doing at nursery and being with his friends etc. one afternoon they posted a picture of his group sitting down with hot chocolate with a Christmas film but he’d already gone home as he only attends in the morning on that day. I showed him the picture and he asked where he was, because he realised that they were his friends and he wasn’t there. The final straw came when they posted Christmas party pictures (which I didn’t even know was happening) and a visit from Father Christmas, again on a day that he doesn’t attend. It was really sad to see all the other children having their Christmas dinner, wearing party hats and getting a gift from Santa knowing he missed out. I get that he doesn’t attend on that day but perhaps they should have done another party for children who wernt there or at least given parents a chance to organise for them to go to the party if they could. I spoke to them about it and they did admit other parents had expressed dissatisfaction about not being told there was a Christmas party (obv children who didn’t attend that day as well).
Next Is the lack of communication. When I collect him (doorstep pick up due to Covid) they tell me if he’s slept and how long for, what he’s eaten and usually ‘he’s been great today’. That’s it. I have no idea what’s he’s doing all day apart from when he comes home with paintings and things he’s made. They don’t tell me how he gets on with the other children, it’s him that tells me about the children that he plays with. They haven’t mentioned anything potty training yet, even though I was told before he started they would help to support whatever we were doing at home and would offer advice. Am I asking too much? I want to know what my son is doing every day and don’t think that’s unreasonable?
My last point is lack of professionalism. When Boris announced that all educational setting were closing apart from nurseries last week, the next day when I dropped him off at nursery, it was so evident that the staff didn’t want to be there. I can understand they are scared about the Covid situation too, but I don’t feel they should be portraying their annoyance to parents. Also the manager made me feel awful about sending him in by saying ‘if it was my child I would keep them at home’. I have been working full time from home since March and my husband works in construction and so has worked the whole way through the pandemic too. I have actually decided to keep him at home now/ send him to his nana’s for a few weeks because I am worried about Covid as ell. But even that is a strain as my mum has copd and is at slight risk. Plus she struggles to have him for 4 whole days. I don’t feel that the manager should have said that to me. Its started to make me question what they are like with the children. They do seem a bit grumpy at times.
Please let Me know what u all think. My husband agrees with my concerns and is usually the first one to say if I’m overreacting or being unreasonable! Thanks all :)
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NatalieP85 · 14/01/2021 09:55
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