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mummyB1 · 06/09/2017 22:28

Dd is in year 3 and has a girl in her class that seems to annoy her in the sense she doesn't like my dd playing with other children "in my dd words she stalks me" she sits by her in class at lunch my dd has even asked to go on pack lunches as she will be able to get away from this girl she has been in my dd class from yr1 they switch up the classes entering yr3 I assumed as from parents evenings they constant fall out and make up and they agreed that they would be better apart when going in to year 3 not the case what do I do I hate confrontation but hate hearing my dd has to plan how to escape this girl last year dd had to make a chart where she would pick 2days to play with tom then 2days with Dom and 1 day with someone else and this girl would be who she'd end up playing with sounds bad but my dd has tried running away from herbhiding from her she isn't being bullied she just isn't being able to I suppose mingle with the new class friends

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chloehazel · 21/09/2017 06:03

This might sound strange, but I had the exact same situation while I was in nursery/preschool. In my case it was a boy, but other than that, pretty much the same thing happened every day.
My little brother was an infant at the time, and both my parents around 26-27, this may be the reason why my cries for help were completely ignored. To put this into context, it was Central Europe in the early 90s, views about raising children were completely different, especially from Western standards, let alone modern Western standards. We were 'left on our own' very often, there are many situations where for my own child I would run to the teacher, parent, council, psychologist, whatever, but back then I was just told to get over it.

Anyway, that is how it was and I am absolutely not blaming anyone for it. However, I must tell you, that little boy harassing me in school gave me anxieties I couldn't get rid off for many, many years. It may seem like a small thing (maybe not for you as you are seeking for help), But children are in an incredibly vulnerable position at your daughter’s age, with overwhelming emotions. I think you must do something. Some of the things that comes to mind: Have you tried to speak to the teachers? Have you tried to speak to the girl’s parents? (before you do either of these, I would ask for your daughter’s permission though). This doesn’t sound like bullying I know, but it is.

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