Hi there everyone. I am a mum to my two girls! My eldest turned 3 a couple of months ago. She is a very happy, healthy, bright child. Socially she has many friends, is confident and since a very young age has been used to baby and toddler groups and play dates. She has been left with family members and friends here and there as well. I tried to start her at a pre school before baby number 2 arrived. She had talked to me about the fact she knows mummy always comes back and we happily talked about all the exciting things she would be able to do. The first two mornings I dropped her off she screamed and cried as I left and they rang me after 1 hour both days saying she wasn't settling at all and would just remain tearful asking for me the whole time. The third morning they let her stay for the full 3 hours, when I arrived I could see her eyes were red and sore and they told me she'd basically cried the entire time and they weren't able to distract her. We came home and she fell fast asleep. She woke up and cried and screamed and begged me never to take her back. And articulated that she didn't like being without me. Every time we drove/drive past she bursts into tears and begs me not to take her there (it's a wonderful outstanding nursery). It's genuine fear I feel from her and genuine tears. She will only do pre school classes such as ballet if it's a class where I can be in the room. Otherwise she cries and sobs and we have to leave.
A few months down the line and now all her friends are due to go to pre school in our village. Despite this she is adamant that she doesn't want to go. And if I suggest it she breaks down. Today we walked past some older boys and she asked where there mummy's were and I explained that when you get to be a grown up girl you don't have to be with your mummy all the time and you can go out with your friends. She stopped in her tracks had tears running down her eyes and said she wants to stay with me forever. She hasn't stopped talking about it all day and it becomes hard because she thinks about it so much she just keeps making herself cry.
I know she would absolutely love and thrive at nursery as plenty of pre school children do. I'm a stay at home mum so I would happily have her at home with me until school but I feel the issue will continue then. As a primary school teacher (pre motherhood) I know how hard some children can find it but I'm desperate to help her cope with this anxiety that is stopping her enjoying things she otherwise would before she legally has to go to school. Any advice or stories from mums who've experienced similar would be so wonderful to hear, is it a phase? Is it something I'm doing wrong? Is there anything I can do?
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3 year old with severe anxiety. Advice needed
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Beccapawley · 26/07/2016 20:23
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