do you notice peer pressure in nursery re. clothes?

[Micromanageit]

I'm not sure if I'm imagining it!

Do you think nursery kids feel pressure to have the same/ equally good accessories and clothes as their peers?

The girls in my DD's nursery seem to have so many accessories and new clothes and I noticed my DD shows her friends whatever she's wearing as soon as she arrives. Seems so young

[VegasIsBest]

Never felt this. Can't believe two and three year olds would either.

[Ginmakesitallok]

No. None in primary school either.

[Micromanageit]

That's reassuring !!

[RunswickBay]

What? No. Of course not. They're about 3!

[poocatcherchampion]

Not at all

Although one little girl laughed at my dd at soft play once for wearing non matching socks. I was just pleased she had socks on.

Made me :( my dd was 2.

[ReallyTired]

I don't think that mist nursery kids have any concept of designer labels. Possibly there is pressure to wear pink and sparkly clothes, but a four year old won't care if they are wearing Almani or ASDA.

Is there competition among the mums?

[Micromanageit]

Yes, I was thinking more along the lines of pink and sparkly rather than specific labels. Or wearing a necklace vs not wearing one.

I'm not sure what other mums think as I never really chat to them

[Artandco]

No, at 2 years mine still wore sleepsuits out a lot of the time

[AnaisB]

Not peer pressure, but my kids are pleased if they've got a favourite item of clothing on - and are happy if they're complimented.

[elliejjtiny]

No, although a preschool child once asked me why 9mo DS4 was wearing a babygrow instead of proper clothes .

[Micromanageit]

My DD has such low self esteem and it seemed odd when I saw her showing her friends her clothes. It wasn't really showing-off, it was almost a nervous panic, look I'm wearing this sort of way. It was a bit upsetting and I'm wondering where it comes from

[Hamsolo]

She seems to have picked up a love of pink there. Wouldn't say it goes any further than that yet.

[CutYourHairAndGetAJob]

Dd likes wearing dressing up clothes to nursery, and I do think the kids like to compare costumes, and try each other's on. Dd is currently very pleased with her £land Hello kitty necklace.

I'm not a fan of the whole pink sparkly look but I don't want to make a big deal out of it and hope she will grow out of it

[Toomanycats99]

I remember dropping my 3 year old off and her and 2 others immediately started comparing their outfits. Then at just 4 at the start of her second school term I dropped her in the classroom in the morning to hear them all discussing what they were wearing to the school disco that afternoon!

[CutYourHairAndGetAJob]

She is three by the way

[hazeyjane]

I work in a preschool and both boys and girls sometimes like showing each other and the staff what they are wearing.....'look at my spiderman top'.......'I've got an Elsa top'....'me too!' (X30!).......'my shoes light up'....'do you like my dress?' Etc etc

One little girl comes up to me every time and does this lovely toe point to show me her shoes, and a sort of curtsey!

[catkind]

They show each other if they have a new dress/hat/shoes or if they have a necklace or a toy brought in or something. Parents encourage this I think, cos when we're waiting to be let in we try to encourage the kids to interact with each other, and 'wow hasn't billy got a cool hat' is an easy opener.
DD knows what her friends like, so e.g. will say 'Z would like that, she likes pink.' Or 'A wouldn't like that, she doesn't like princesses.' I find that a really good sign they're developing an understanding of other children as separate people from themselves.
Sometimes DD will try to match friends, so if she's going to visit Z she'll wear pink. I'm pretty sure her recent self-afflicted haircut was a copycat!
It really doesn't go beyond colours and characters. It's definitely cooperative not competitive. And as far as I can tell they don't notice how many different/new things, just what they have on today.

[JasperDamerel]

No, but DS started insisting on wearing "boys' socks" rather than his sister's cast-offs at around the end of preschool or start of Reception.

[poocatcherchampion]

What do you mean low self esteem OP? Its very young for such a label IMO

[PotteringAlong]

Not unless they are dressed as a pirate, which is normally the object of much admiration

[OrangesandLemonsNow]

*What do you mean low self esteem OP? Its very young for such a label IMO(

I agree

[BeStrongAndCourageous]

Yeah, the 3&4 year old girls at DD's nursery like to compare clothes and admire each other's. It doesn't bother me - DD has always loved clothes, as do I, as does my DM, as did my DGM!

One the other girls turned up one day in brand-new sparkly Princess dress and one of DD's friends immediately burst into tears because "she looks more beautiful than me!" which I thought was a little worrying, but then she is normally quite emotional.

[Sheezus]

Sorry OP, just wondering if you are projecting a bit on to your DD.
As others have said all children do this and it is harmless.

I don't think nursery kids know the difference between Primark and Prada.

[CutYourHairAndGetAJob]

I think the cheaper stuff is more popular because it tends to be more sparkly and less tasteful.

[weebarra]

DD loves clothes and I do buy her quite a lot (lots of second hand Scandi!) but it tends to be supermarket stuff for nursery, or pink sparkly stuff my MIL has bought her. It's going to get covered in mud, paint etc so I don't want her wearing good stuff.