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fertilization of eggs and mating taught to 3yo

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PaulCardiff Mon 07-Dec-15 21:32:56

My 3yo dd came home with a book from her Catholic nursery with a life cyles book,egg to the book it mentions how the male fertilizes the egg and the egg is inside the this too early for her?or is this the norm?seems a little early,more for my wife.are we over reacting?

CultureSucksDownWords Mon 07-Dec-15 21:56:55

No, it's fine. What would be the problem with knowing what eggs are at 3?

PaulCardiff Tue 08-Dec-15 07:07:59

Knowing what eggs are isnt the problem. Its that a male fertilizes the egg while its inside the female. So you are happy to explain the "ins and outs" of reproduction to a 3 yo?

doceodocere Tue 08-Dec-15 07:10:33

Yes you are over reacting. She has been given some basic scientific facts about reproduction.

SweetAdeline Tue 08-Dec-15 07:13:45

Yes I would be happy with my 3yo being taught the basics of reproduction.

SweetAdeline Tue 08-Dec-15 07:14:30

Including some of the "ins and outs".

TheGreenNinja Tue 08-Dec-15 07:17:14

Seems fine to me - I don't have a problem with 3 yo being told factually correct information and it sounds at an age-appropriate level.

YouBastardSockBalls Tue 08-Dec-15 07:22:28

Book - fine

Live penguin porn show - questionable

PaulCardiff Tue 08-Dec-15 07:33:08

Spoke to a few friends who teach the same age group.they know the book and they say its for year 3 and up.i personally, am ok with wife on the other hand is not. She said, what do we say when two animals are going at it and we say their just hugging, then my dd turns around and says no mummy their fertilizing their egg for a baby.

SweetAdeline Tue 08-Dec-15 07:37:04

Why would you say they were just hugging?
What does it matter that she knows they are mating?

bittapitta Tue 08-Dec-15 07:39:04

Does she have siblings/younger cousins? Hasn't she asked about how babies get into mummies tummy etc? All sounds like it has been taught to her in an age appropriate way to be honest.

Fugghetaboutit Tue 08-Dec-15 07:40:26

My ds loves the book by Babette Cole 'Mummy laid an egg' and he's 3 soon. It's science!

Whatthefreakinwhatnow Tue 08-Dec-15 07:41:02

hugging?! confused

AuntieStella Tue 08-Dec-15 07:41:06

Using a resource designed for 7/8 year olds in a nursery to 3 year olds is a problem. In every subject, including this one.

It is important to have a good SRE curriculum.

It is important within that to use age-appropriate materials, and something designed for children 5 years (and 2 key stages) older is wrong.

PrincessHairyMclary Tue 08-Dec-15 07:42:22

No problem with any child being taught the facts of life. My DD is 6 and knows more about reproduction than some of the year 7 children I work with. If you talk about it in a matter of fact way from the start it's not going to be an issue.

And as for 2 Animals going at it why can't you say they are making a baby?

MrsUnderwood Tue 08-Dec-15 07:42:57

It's science, dude. Nothing corrupt or lascivious about it. By lying or being embarrassed about the way life is made it is setting it up in her mind to be something shameful.

Besom Tue 08-Dec-15 07:43:10

You say 'yes that's right daling'. That's not very likely to happen though.
My Dd is 7 and I have always told her factual information. One of my dogs tries to hump the other one regularly and I've told her that the dog wants to try to make puppies. Doesn't mean she understands anything about sex however, she doesn't.

PaulCardiff Tue 08-Dec-15 07:43:16

Playing mummies and daddies will reach a whole new, thats my wifes idea.shes brought up Catholic.i know that when I was 5 I knew a lot through my older bro.and I also know my mummies and daddies reached a new exploritary level.but I tell her that I turned out ok.

PotteringAlong Tue 08-Dec-15 07:44:14

Don't tell her they're just hugging! They're not!

ShelaghTurner Tue 08-Dec-15 08:05:27

I was brought up Catholic and my children are being brought up Catholic. I'd have no problem with my 3yo being taught this. She hasn't asked anything yet and my 7yo only asked this year and she was told everything in an age appropriate way. I'm quite happy for the ball to be set rolling earlier with dd2.

BertrandRussell Tue 08-Dec-15 08:13:32


Can you explain why you think it's a problem?

AuntieStella Tue 08-Dec-15 08:17:15

I think the problem is that a 3 year old is unlikely to benefit from materials written for 7/8 year olds.

It's not specifically SRE problem, it would be just as problematic with any curriculum subject.

Costacoffeeplease Tue 08-Dec-15 08:17:40

Would you rather have an embarrassed conversation when she's 8, 9, 10? Much better that she learns facts from an early age, and that that learning continues. I don't get all the angst actually, and I was brought up catholic too

Sleepyfergus Tue 08-Dec-15 08:22:05

Good god, she's not come back with 'the joy of sex'. She's been told the truth albeit they have missed out a few steps which would be meaningless to a 3yo at this stage.

And don't tell your dd that animals are hugging if they are meting. Tell them they are making a baby monkey/dog/zebra whatever! That's the truth and there is nothing sordid about it. . She'll prob move on and be quite uninterested but at least you won't have lied to her

AuntieStella Tue 08-Dec-15 08:26:00

"She's been told the truth albeit they have missed out a few steps"

Thise 'few steps' being the reception, year 1 and year 2 SRE topics.

I know MNetters all have brilliant DC who are well capable of absorbing material 4 school years ahead of their age wink But I think it's not great for general classroom use to use materials designed for pupils more than twice their age.

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