DD 2.10 started a montessori nursery on Tuesday. I thought I would be staying with her for the first hour and then bring her back the next day and try moving away or sitting outside. This is not what happened DD walked through the doors and the manager told me to let her go and just to leave her! I said no I wanted to say goodbye and settle her in she said it will only make her cry and best no to. She said I could wait outside and she will let me know if she cries. She came out 10 mins later said she was fine and I could go home and pick her up at the end of the session which was full 3 hours. I said I wasn't happy leaving her that long on her first and would be back after an hour.
When I went back to collect DD was really upset and had cried a bit. I know this is normal for the first few days but just feel she should have been weaned in gently and not just not left on her first day in a new place with strangers She had cried but not overly and told her key worked that she was missing mummy. .
Also Key worker said it was best to let her stay for the full session the next day as otherwise she will get use to leaving early. Part of me just wants to scream and say its the first week surely the settling in process should be about getting them use to the environment and gently increasing the time spent there the way they have done is it basically just thrown her in at the deep end. I've been put off the nursery as to me this was an important process and don't feel it was handled well and or in the way they said it would be and not what is stated in the handbook.
I didnt send her in yesterday spoke to the manager told her my concerns she said it was the best and quickest way to settle them otherwise I would end up spending a couple of weeks settling her in, but that is fine by me. She said I could stay with her if I wanted. So I took her today went in to my surprise all mothers just left their children which is fine if that's their choice but then this made me feel I am being over sensitive and I should just leave DD even though she didn't want me to go. Anyway I left after half an hour as I didn't feel welcome told DD I was going outside and would be back soon. She was fine. Key worked told me to come back after the full session.
I'm just not happy with the way the first week has gone, basically there is not settling in procedure it's just drop of your child and go.
Is what happened normal am I just being oversensitive?
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