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Whats the chances of having a premature baby second time round?

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lovelybubbly Sat 24-Oct-09 21:29:28

i had my son at 26weeks after going into prem labour. although, not quite sure what caused it. he is now 6 years old, but suffered many complications, due to his birth & a bleed on the brain, he has cerebral palsy & is wheelchair bound.
i am now pregnant again & am 25 weeks gone, so as you can imagine, i'm quite worried about having this one prematurely also.
doctors have been keeping a close eye on me this time round, having extra scans, tests, steroid injections etc.
just wondered if anyone knows if having a premature baby increases the risk of having another one, or whether i could go full term without any complications? has anyone else had a similar experience? & what was your outcome?

LucyLH Sun 09-Jun-19 13:04:15

Hi,
I had my beautiful daughter at 27 weeks and told there was no reason and just one of those things.
We had a long run in neonatal but thankfully she finally came home and is a funny, chatty and bossy 20 month old little lady.
I'm ready for another baby and I would like her to have a little brother or sister quite similar in age.
No matter how much I want another child, I'm terrified of having another premature baby. I can't see one on the television or in the news without bursting into tears. I feel like its erratic as shes perfect and we are so lucky. However there was so many times when we were told we may loose her, I can't help it.
If I had to go through it again, I feel like I wouldn't be able to mentally cope.
Does anyone have any advice?
Ta

MrsJet Sun 24-Jun-18 20:22:36

Hi
After a really bad pregnancy due to PappA, Low blood flow from my placenta and the baby being small, I had a placenta abruption at 28 weeks and my son was born. I lost a lot of blood and had to have a transfusion, devastatingly my son passed away after 4 weeks as there was just to much to cope with for him.
I wanted some advise about having another baby. I am 41 and wanted to know whether this all would happen again or if I would have a chance at a healthy pregnancy/birth.

Any advise or people's stories would be welcome

Thank you xx

jane613488 Sun 24-Jun-18 19:33:04

Hello chucklesjen

I know it has been a long time since your post. I was just wondering if you decided to have another baby and was it all ok.

I have just had a premature baby who was 28 weeks, the delivery was due to placenta abruption. Unfortunately the outcome wasn’t very good and my son passed away.

I just wanted to see if there was a success story for me to have another baby at a later date

Thank you xxx

MummyDaddyJackandBump Thu 29-Sep-11 00:10:56

Hello all. My son was born at 30 weeks after my waters broke at 29 weeks. Im currently pregnant with baby no2 and am under close observation. I was told by my midwife and consultant that i would be more likely to have another pre'term baby because i have had already. That being said, there is every reason to believe i will carry to full term this time round. And the same goes to all you ladies. Think positive and i wish you all the luck in the world.

smallbutperfectlyformed Sun 25-Sep-11 12:29:30

I've recently had a prem baby and sadly he lost his battle after 10 days. I'm not thinking about another baby RIGHT now..... but clearly i'm thinking about the future and what might be in store. It's interesting to read ALL your experiences.

Quite a personal question, buti just wondered how long you left it after your prem babies before trying/ having another? Especially if there is anyone reading this that lost a baby but has then had another.......?

sjmummy Fri 16-Sep-11 22:10:38

after having two prem boy's does anybody know what the chances are of me going full term with a baby girl? my boys were prem because of premature rupturing of the membranes. can anyone give me advise please.

JessKM Sun 26-Jun-11 00:23:02

My daughter was delivered at 27 weeks after I developed pre-eclampsia, she was a tiny scrap at 1 lb 8oz, but doctors decided that it was too risky to do anything else. Shes 6 now, and was slightly late in reaching her major milestones, shes caught up now and is a regular 6 year old girl. She was diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum and can throw some epic tantrums, but we dont know whether this is down to her prematurity, or it would have happened regardless!
We were advised to think carefully about havin another child, as pre-eclampsia has a habit of rearing its ugly head more than once, so didnt plan anymore children, but we had a suprise baby in November 2009 (after only finding out we were expecting in July) and she arrived full term, weighed 8lbs and had no complications with the birth at all!

MABS Tue 14-Jun-11 17:24:40

Had dd 16 years ago at 31 weeks, placental abruption, lost 3, then had ds 10 years ago at 27 weeks, same reason sad

Mmmmcheese Tue 14-Jun-11 16:49:15

Hi, I had DS1 at 31 weeks and now 12 weeks with #2. No reason for why DS1 was early but I was already 3 cm dilated at 25 weeks. They've told me that they don't think its incompetent cervix so no need for a stitch.

They've asked whether I want to do a medical trial, taking progesterone pessaries. I've taken them before and am convinced they give me UTIs, which itself can cause premature labour, but there is also some evidence that it can reduce the risk of premature labour. I really don't know what to do. Does anyone have any advice?

Mackiegundog Tue 17-May-11 16:28:08

i had my boy at 33+6 and there was no reason found for it.it was awful sitting in the ward with all the other mums and babies bonding when all i could do was go up to special care and look at him through a plastic box with tubes and wires everywhere.he is 1 yr old now and doing grand. we are trying for another baby and im terrified it will happen again

circular Mon 04-Apr-11 07:39:39

Had B/G (IVF) twins at 28+1, waters broke on T1 a few days earlier. T1 only lived for a day, strep Infection. Unclear whether that caused early labour or if infection came during / after delivery. Emergency C- section. T2 very weak, 16 wks in hospital, the first few touch and go. Now DD1 age 13.5.

Fell pregnant naturally 4.5 years later, then over 40. Paranoid up to 32 weeks that history would repeat itself, but was continually told by the medics that it was very unlikely, as no conclusive reason for. 1st time.
Had lots of extra monitoring, doplar scan to check enough blood / nourishment getting to placenta. Intravenous antibiotics during labour. DD2 (now 8) a large, healthy, 8.5lb, at 40+3.

laura616 Fri 01-Apr-11 19:57:12

i had my son at 31 weeks due to a infection they said
they didnt know where it came from was just one of them things,im pregnant again im 3 months im worried incase the same thing could happen again dont want to go though that going up the hospital every day! well i didnt have any urine tests with my son if i did have them tests they could of caught the infection early and gave me something to get rid of it,im hoping i do go full term with this baby

abgirl Tue 22-Feb-11 21:36:16

Had DS1 at 29+4, v traumatic, didn't see him for 30 hours after the birth due to other prem births going on at the same time. Had PE and was extremely nervous about having a second. Would say Ieattoomuchcake that 8mo isn't very long and maybe you need to have a bigger gap before you start thinking about it seriously?

However decided to go for it, reasoning that I'd be better prepared and know what to expect. Finished work for maternity leave a lot sooner and changed my birth plan weekly but ended up going to term and having a completely different experience with DS2, which kind of restored my faith in myself and my ability to have babiesgrin - not feeling the need to have any more now though...

Having another has definitely helped me cope with the trauma of DS1. Would definitely recommend contacting your hospital and asking to see a consultant before you start trying to conceive. Also rods have a colleague at work who's second child was prem and they had to take their DD1 on to SCBU - she actually took it all in her stride and was v calm about everything, so it might not be as bad as you think?

HTH

rods Tue 22-Feb-11 21:22:26

my baby girl was born at 32weeks prem think it cud of been due to waters leaking but did not get any news why she was so early she was wiped of to nicu straight away i was put on ward felt very uncumfotable wiv oter mums an babies crying i am thinking of avin another but very scared in case it brings back emotion of my daughter cumin early an just cudent cope we aving to take my daughter on to a nicu unit x also she had lot of jaundice

Ieattoomuchcake Thu 13-Jan-11 22:29:51

That's a lovely story IcanandIwill

We have DD who is only 8 mo. Born at 31 weeks, poorly in the early days, but within a week or so was just feeding and growing.

I feel sad because I always wanted more than one child but I'm not sure I could go through all that again.

Of course it is all so fresh in my mind and perhaps in a few years the memories will have faded enough to make us want to do it again!!

IcanandIwill Thu 13-Jan-11 20:15:55

DD1 born at 30 weeks and quite poorly. We put off having a second DC for some years as we really were not ready to deal with another prem birth with all of the complications it can bring.

We were never given a reason why DD1 arrived early. Thankfully with excellent midwife and consultant care and a lot of monitoring our second DD arrived at 38 weeks.

I have to say the care I revived was excellent the second time around . I really felt taken care of and that the well-being of my baby was paramount at all times.

harrygracejessica Thu 13-Jan-11 19:56:13

Im going through the same thoughts at the moment. I had twin girls at 33 weeks through waters breaking for no reason but im currently pregnant with a set of boy twins and Im wondering if they will be earlier. There arent many statistics of 2nd set of twins early as doesnt seem to be many people that go on to have more twins!

Mandy21 Wed 12-Jan-11 21:41:01

HI there, I had twins at 27 weeks for no reason and was paranoid when I became pregnant again that it would be another premature birth - I was more frightened than first time round because a) I now know how many things can go wrong and b) I had no idea how we would manage the rollercoaster / logistical nightmare of 7 or 8 weeeks with a baby in SCBU and 2 x 4 year olds.

I think if there is any positive to come out of having a premature birth it that (in my experience) your second pregnancy will be very well managed - mine was. If ever I was feeling stressed / worried that something was wrong, I jumped the queue to see the midwife and saw the consultant several times.

I didn't quite get to my due date, she was born at 39+6!!

Mandy

1hottmumma Tue 11-Jan-11 21:16:46

My son was born at 26 weeks and 2 days no reason at all he had a tough time he was 11 weeks old when we got him home 2 weeks later i found out i was pregnant again i worried throughout my pregnancy but once i hit 27 weeks i just ticked the time off and eventually 40 weeks and 5 days my girl was here x hope it worked out for u

cintyanne Fri 26-Nov-10 04:16:31

Hi all, I am going through something similar at the moment. I had my first son at 35 weeks as well as him being breech and having a cord prolapse, he died at 3 days old, that was a year ago on the 7th of January. I am now 32+2 with my second and am so so scared that something is going to go wrong. I know the chances of cord prolapse a second time are not likely at all, but does anyone know if she's more likely to arrive that early too?
My OB won't book me in for ceserean before 39 weeks, not that I want to rush anything but I'm just so worried that my waters will break before then and I live an hour from the hospital so I'm just really anxious to see how the next 6 weeks go.
Any advise from nurses or people with past experience?

goomum Thu 25-Nov-10 22:15:42

Hey ladies, this could be me talking as before I was feeling exactly the same fear as you are talking about now. My first son was born at 34 weeks after waters leaked. Second son born on due date! Only precautions we took were avoiding sex after 27 weeks on advice of doctor, avoiding eating gluten as I have gluten intolerance and finishing work a bit earlier than the usual 4 weeks before due date (partly cos I felt robbed of that special down time the first time round). All was well and despite doctors saying I was at increased risk - I made it to 40 weeks and had a home birth to boot. Everything was perfect the second time round- with baby feeding straight away and tucked into Moses basket by my side where he should be. It did make me re-live the sadness of not being able to provide that for my eldest all over again a bit because the contrast between their arrivals was so big BUT I think many, many women who have one prem baby go on to have a second full term baby and a positive birth experience. Good luck!

goomum Thu 25-Nov-10 22:12:44

Hey ladies, this could be me talking as before I was feeling exactly the same fear as you are talking about now. My first son was born at 34 weeks after waters leaked. Second son born on due date! Only precautions we took were avoiding sex after 27 weeks on advice of doctor, avoiding eating gluten as I have gluten intolerance and finishing work a bit earlier than the usual 4 weeks before due date (partly cos I felt robbed of that special down time the first time round). All was well and despite doctors saying I was at increased risk - I made it to 40 weeks and had a home birth to boot. Everything was perfect the second time round- with baby feeding straight away and tucked into Moses basket by my side where he should be. It did make me re-live the sadness of not being able to provide that for my eldest all over again a bit because the contrast between their arrivals was so big BUT I think many, many women who have one prem baby go on to have a second full term baby and a positive birth experience. Good luck!

Domino89 Thu 11-Nov-10 08:22:06

notsotinybaba - I feel the same and im terrified of future babies incase the same happens! If i think about her being in hospital or the whole experience it makes me cry even looking at pitures of her in the hospital, i cant look back on it without getting upset, having a premmie as my first ruined it all for me, watching all the mums on the ward with their babies and i wasnt allowed mine. Thats enough for me I cant even post about it on here!! Just thought i would say i feel the same

SpangleMaker Fri 30-Apr-10 22:10:46

Meant to add, lovelybubbly I hope the rest of your pregnancy went well and that your DC2 arrived safely.

SpangleMaker Fri 30-Apr-10 22:07:46

I was about to post the same thing too! DS arrived at 35.5 weeks following spontaneous ROM, so not very early. He was fine apart from jaundice and being slow to establish bf-ing. But I'm now 6wks pregnant with #2 and beginning to get worried that this one could arrive even earlier.

notsotinybaba IKWYM about feeling guilty, I do too sometimes. I hope you can come to terms with your feelings x

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