I had a baby at 29 weeks last July after a near month long stay in hospital where i bounced between antenatal and delivery every time i de-stabilised, every couple of days. When he was born he had to be blue lighted to a higher level hospital and his consultant told me when we'd been transferred back that he wasn't sure he'd survive the journey. The road isn't over, there's some surgeries ahead and i have a 4 year old (lived with my mum mainly apart from me for months over the summer and had a delayed school start because we were in a different county, oh the guilt!) who is now showing some behavioural issues and delightfully brought home chicken pox for Christmas which she shared with her baby brother!
I'm now getting the feeling that people think that i am/ Should be back to normal. Insensitive comments here and there, confusion when i get upset about things that have happened. My sister in law is pregnant and I've found that hard to deal with and now she's had some problems at times it all floods back, though I'm working really hard to be supportive and not let it show.
Even my husband seems to want to get things back to normal, big point of focus atm being our sex life. But I'm tired ALL THE TIME. There's no excuse cos my boy sleeps beautifully, but he's essentially 3 months and likes to be held when sleeping during the day so between him and my girl it's like i get 'touched out'. And I'm stressed constantly. I'm managing hospital appointments for both children and me, some of which were messed up by the pox so I've got to chase up on them. Oh and we moved house in the midst of all this, there are still boxes yet to be unpacked and i have no support in this new area.
I thought I've been coping pretty well but most of the time i feel like I'm barely keeping my head above water just feeding the kids and keeping up with the housework basics, let alone whether I've showered shaved and am up for sex. But should i be over this and back to normal by now? After all technically he is 6 nearly months now.
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Amigoingmad29weeks · 20/01/2020 22:29
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