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Missed out on NCT groups?

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Valdeeves Wed 19-Feb-14 23:27:08

Anybody feel disappointed to have missed out on the whole NCT experience as baby was born early?
Fancy starting our own? Here!

FraggleRock77 Thu 20-Feb-14 00:55:44

Yes and yippee! I had just started a baby exercise group too! shock

Pipsmilkmaid Thu 20-Feb-14 11:04:17

Yes. I go to baby signing and a group but am not part if the mummy gang. I always feel a bit sad when they all arrive and leave together.
Luckily I'm in touch with some of the NICU mums.
Great idea grin thanks

MiaowTheCat Thu 20-Feb-14 16:42:55

Yep (but not NCT) and I tried to get the message across to the local children's centre how it is - you lose that common ground with people sharing an expected due date with you - but you don't really gain the common ground with people with babies the same chronological age because of the different developmental stage they're at... it's really rather isolating and if I'm honest, I never really have managed to break into the mummy gang as a result (not helped now by the fact the ones I DO get along with are eligible for the 2 year old nursery places so all going off the radar a lot now)!

It's very isolating (particularly since I do NOT have warm fuzzy feelings toward the NICU who treated me and DH appallingly and so didn't even fit in with the "preemie mums")

Bankholidaybaby Sat 22-Feb-14 00:11:11

My antenatal classes were due to start two days after I gave birth. I had to cancel them, along with my 34 week midwife appointment, and my 36 week consultant appointment. I've been feeling sad about not clicking with the other mums at the few groups we attend - I hadn't considered that they might have been in NCT together but that makes a lot of sense. I thought it was just me!

Withalittlesparkle Sat 22-Feb-14 00:34:41

I did the whole NCT experience (thought you'd like a different point of view) it's lovely having the support BUT I live on the other side of town so I don't go to the same classes as them...

It's so so hard to break in to groups when NCT groups all turn up en mass!! Look for women sitting on their own, and sit close to them, start small talk "isn't your baby lovely" etc and I'm sure given time you'll start making friends!! Maybe friends who won't fully understand what you're going through but friends who might try!!

(Secretly hoping you attend one of my classes as I'd kill for some company)

Valdeeves Sat 22-Feb-14 00:48:27

We've had two prem births so missed both NCT groups - everyone I know seems to be in one - and they are a bit like the circle of trust in Meet The Fockers - no ones getting in!
I have met loads of nice mums and that's great - it just would have been nice to have that experience.
So ok, here we are in our virtual Costa Coffee - who's round the table with me and where are you based?

Anniegoestotown Sat 22-Feb-14 00:55:24

In our area we had post natal groups, still friends with 3 of the mums to this day.

Withalittlesparkle Sat 22-Feb-14 01:18:25

Val ill come to Costa large because I already have caffeine induced insomnia! I'm midlands based smile

FraggleRock77 Sat 22-Feb-14 02:01:38

Costa do a great tuna/cheese melt. I used to drive to the 'Costa drive through' as a break from NICU. I'm Oxfordshire. I'm hoping Mary Poppins will be present so we can all have a break xgrin

Pipsmilkmaid Sat 22-Feb-14 05:28:52

Hi Val, Sparkle and Fraggle I'm in Hertfordshire. Will have a hot chocolate with marshmallows.

Withalittlesparkle Sat 22-Feb-14 07:52:21

I had a 5 am wake up call with a poorly sick baby with a chesty cough! He's happy enough but his cough keeps waking him up!!

So I best have the biggest coffee with an expresso chaser!

Thechick Sat 22-Feb-14 10:37:42

There are nct tea groups that meet up. You have to email an email from the website and my group there were babies in my area born within 3 months of each other so I didn't really feel that my prem baby was behind everyone.

overthemill Sat 22-Feb-14 10:43:03

I gate crashed an nct group. I'd attended one in the town nearest to where we lived before baby and then moved so too far to go back. Spotted couple if friendly looking mums with similar she baby to me at baby clinic and chatted. Was invited to join their Friday group meeting at each other's houses. Best thing that Dover happened to us! Brilliant group of mates. And miss them so much since we had to move again 6 years ago. Now can't make any friends at all in small village and no more school gate opportunities since dd on school bus

MultipleMama Sun 23-Feb-14 00:05:45

Hello, Valdeeves and everyone else (yeah kinda lazy and in zombie mode to write everyones name; I'm gunna call us the Kangaroo mamas!). I am currently based in Germany so it's good that it's virtual! wink. I'll have coffee based frappaccino with extra coffee - no whip! Ignore the screaming babies attached to me; it's been a crazy night!

Valdeeves Sun 23-Feb-14 13:38:33

I like Kangaroo Mamas! I'm having a Chai Tea Latte watching my two children - one has a toy car and the other is walking around bothering every customer by going very close and staring at them.
We are based in Berkshire, playing with the kids today in the house as the car has a flat battery and stuck on our drive. Eaten too much cake after lunch and just about ready to fall asleep. What are you all up to? Xxxx

FraggleRock77 Sun 23-Feb-14 14:06:20

Watching endless episodes of friends. DS is out of sorts today. Just vomited all over his snowsuit and me! I need cake. DH at work! Wish we all lived in the same area and attended the same groups. Xx

Bankholidaybaby Sun 23-Feb-14 14:15:11

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MultipleMama Sun 23-Feb-14 14:44:54

I've up since 4.30am as my twin boys refused to sleep and we are currently playing jigsaws and lego while 4 of my DC nap, and DH is making dinner of vegetarian stew and dumplings! Want some?! grin

I do however have a craving for iced Raspberry tea!

I wish we did too, it's so lovely the support on here for each other!

Valdeeves Sun 23-Feb-14 20:18:29

I'll have some stew please! Just done some mega boring ironing and am about to watch Call The Midwife. Bankholliday whereabouts?

Bankholidaybaby Sun 23-Feb-14 20:38:46

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MultipleMama Sun 23-Feb-14 20:43:11

Apollo is just refusing to take his meds tonight keeps spitting/drippling them out! Managed to get one dose through the medi pacifier so if someone could put on a pot of the strongest coffee, I will forever be in your debit!

Bankholiday - I love those teacakes! My weakness are those Snowballs with coconut! Yum.

Valdeeves Sun 23-Feb-14 21:17:10

One cafetiere brewing!

Pipsmilkmaid Mon 24-Feb-14 14:32:01

I miss coffee ds fusses if I drink it even decaf and I couldn't stand the smell when I was pregnant.
How is everyone today? I've got a stinking cold and a grumpy baby

FraggleRock77 Mon 24-Feb-14 15:13:09

Hey Pip. Poor you. Would a hot chocolate help instead?! My DH is coming home from work early. Yippee xx Watching Bridesmaids on record, sooooo funny xxx

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