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Mama1980 Tue 30-Oct-12 22:39:36

Hi I'll try to keep this is as short as possible, am currently 18 weeks with My second pregnancy my son was born following a car crash 4 years ago at 26 weeks. Due to ongoing complications this pregnancy is very high risk, I've been in hospital for weeks not least because I'm bleeding from the placenta. At the moment baby is looking good but term delivery was never going too be a option. Today the drs said we are now looking at a very pre term delivery as the risks to both of us are increasing faster than they had hoped. Does anyone have any experince of anything like this? How do they judge when the risks are too high? I'm so scared for my baby sad

SouthernComforts Wed 31-Oct-12 00:01:43

Hi, couldn't read and not post. I only have experience of a 28 weeker, so nothing you don't already know. But sending you hugs and I hope someone can offer you advice soon.

bytheseaside Wed 31-Oct-12 14:21:55

I have no experience either, but really feel for you and understand why you are so worried. Hope you LO manages to stay in there for as long as possible x

SouthernComforts Wed 31-Oct-12 16:10:21

All I can think of is [[]]

How many weeks do they think you can get to?

SouthernComforts Wed 31-Oct-12 16:11:04

Verybusymummyof2 Wed 31-Oct-12 21:50:22

Hi mama1980,
Your situation sounds very similar to mine. I had my baby at 27 weeks after heavy and continual bleeding from 19 weeks with 2 massive bleeds at 19+5 and 20+3 all apparently down to low lying placenta. At 26 weeks I had a prom and went into natural labour 1 week later.
Before 24 weeks, they judge the risks as high, when the mothers life is in danger. With my massive bleeds,I was told that if the bleeding could not be controlled and I was at risk of serious complications, then they would need to deliver to save me but all the time,I was fine and baby was fine they would do nothing, just monitor. And this was the case, my pregnancy continued albeit with continued bleeding.

Post 24 weeks, when baby is deemed to viable, with a good chance of survival, the high risks and need for delivery would be if you were in danger and/or the baby was showing signs of distress.

I wish you all the best,I can remember all too clearly what a worrying time it is.
My advice would be to go on complete bed rest and ask for steroid injections to assist baby's lungs as soon as you hit 24 weeks. Have they prescribed iron tablets too?

Wishing you all the best xx

Mama1980 Mon 03-Dec-12 17:48:35

Thank you all so much. Sorry for my late reply. It's been crazy. I'm still in hospital 23 weeks today and things are looking increasingly worrying, I have been told to prepare myself for a very pre term delivery. I have been total bed rest and having blood/ iron/ the yellow vitamin drip thing to try to keep us stable. They hoped to get me to 28/30 weeks but that's not really likely now they say. Scans Are showing signs of potential foetal distress and I'm being monitored every few hours have been for days and so far so good. Im so so scared. Thank you for the link I've had a read, some amazing inspirational stories on there.

TeaandHobnobs Tue 04-Dec-12 05:52:37

Gosh Mama what an ordeal to have been in hospital all this time sad
I can understand that you are scared, but you are so close to that magic 24 week point now, every day more is an achievement. Neonatal care is so fantastic these days.
Wishing you and LO all the very best - stay strong and keep talking to us here if it helps you thanks

WhatKatyDidnt Tue 04-Dec-12 12:22:17

Oh mama, you poor thing. I spent a month in hospital before my daughter was born three months early. Different circumstances, but I will never forget the worry, despair and fear of the unknown. I feel for you and am wishing you the very best of luck.

mymatemax Tue 04-Dec-12 18:53:44

No advice (mine was a big fat 28wker), just wanted to wish you & your baby well. Every day counts as you know. take care x

Mama1980 Tue 04-Dec-12 19:05:14

Thanks so much everyone for taking the time to reply thanks to all. I have another scan tomorrow to check for bruising/bleeding and further distress so I am hoping for good news. Heartbeat for now is stable and they'll be giving the first lot of steroids on Friday. Feeling a little calmer today, my dr is cautiously optimistic that even if they had to deliver (the unit is aware i might deliver a micro preemie) in the next week or so but obviously everyday day counts.

JoEW Wed 05-Dec-12 10:26:55

Hope you're doing ok mama and that the scan goes well.

libelulle Wed 05-Dec-12 12:22:35

Good luck and I'll think of you. I was in the delivery unit for just over a week before my DS finally made an appearance at 26+3 and it was one of the most traumatic experiences imaginable, so I really feel for you. Cross off every hour, every day that passes as a huge achievement.

Verybusymummyof2 Wed 05-Dec-12 21:18:33

Good luck mama!!! I hope the scan goes well!! And like the others have said, every day counts!!
Something, i wish i had of known about with my premmie is magnesium sulphate before delivery!!! There is a post with more detailed information on here a bit further own, but it helps protect the babies brain. I wasn't given it and don't know why because other mums were?? So do ask your consultant.....
Wishing you lots of luck x x x

Mama1980 Wed 12-Dec-12 08:44:03

Hello I have been asked by mama1980 to update I hope I am doing this right, I am replying to the first threads on her list. My nephew alexander was born at 2.41 this morning by emergency c section. He is doing well but Bec is intensive care after losing a lot of blood. Hopefully this is just a precaution.
I'm sure she will update as soon as she can

WhatKatyDidnt Wed 12-Dec-12 10:21:54

Gosh thank you for updating us. Congratulations on the birth of Alexander. I will be thinking of your family and wishing mother and son well.

tiredteddy Wed 12-Dec-12 10:30:10

I read this story and her others a long while ago. I'm sending love hugs and support to mama and her baby and all of their family.

Verybusymummyof2 Wed 12-Dec-12 17:06:05

I have been checking to see if there has been any update from mamma!
Congratulations on the birth of Alexander, thinking about you and sending all my love and best wishes at this time, please keep us updated, Please feel free to ask anything x x

mummykat12 Wed 12-Dec-12 19:45:18

Lots of love to mama1980 and her family. xx

SouthernComforts Wed 12-Dec-12 19:48:53

Congratulations mama. Thank you so much for the update. Hope she is well soon and baby Alexander keeps getting stronger xxx

libelulle Thu 13-Dec-12 12:07:28

Congratulations!! Thinking of you and sending strength for the difficult times ahead in hospital. xxx

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