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UsernameSpoosername · 19/12/2020 11:04

Not sure if an abortion or a third child seems like the more traumatic thing right now. I feel so much guilt.

What is best for my existing children?
What is best for the potential 3rd child?
What do I do?

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Itsjustme3 · 02/01/2021 14:21

Hi

I’m in the same position, also pregnant with my 3rd. How old are the other children?

I have no idea what I’m going to do as I’ve spilt with the potential dad of this baby.

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Windylindy7 · 02/01/2021 16:13

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UsernameSpoosername · 02/01/2021 22:29

My other children are 3 and 1. Yours @Itsjustme3. Sorry you’re in a similar position, it’s incredibly hard.

Thank you @Windylindy7, I’m 7 weeks. I had a consultation with BPAS last week but wasn’t sure on my decision so have postponed for a counselling session. Feel awful I may have prolonged the inevitable and part of me wishes I just did it. But then I’m still not sure on what to do now so maybe I would be regretting that decision now. Just so, so hard...

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Windylindy7 · 02/01/2021 22:39

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UsernameSpoosername · 02/01/2021 22:45

@Windylindy7 thank you so much, sorry you’re going through the same thing. I hope you’re ok

What made you come to your decision after weeks of going back and fourth? If you don’t mind me asking... I’m hoping I’ll have that ‘ah ha’ moment... & just know in my gut, either way! But even though I am only 7 weeks the time pressure is definitely impacting me, I would like to do it ASAP if that’s what I decide.

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spidermomma · 02/01/2021 23:04

I have 3
Ages 4-3-1
My oldest 2 are seriously ill and possibly the youngest may be
This aside
I'd never ever change it for the world. Their all crazy, love each other and it's great having a mad house
However they cost a fortune and it isn't always easy!!
Hope you figure it out op xx

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Windylindy7 · 03/01/2021 07:45

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Itsjustme3 · 03/01/2021 09:24

I have a 5&6 year old. I contacted bpas yesterday for an appointment but I’m still so unsure. I think I’m 5 weeks but i had positive tests from 5 days before I was due on and this still hasn’t sunk in.

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Haggertyjane · 03/01/2021 13:42

If you have plans for a third child in the future, have this one. It will be hard initially, but the guilt otherwise would be awful. If you definitely had no plans or intentions to have a third it is much easier to have a termination

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