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How did you feel after (mentally)

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rasberryberety Tue 08-Dec-20 21:15:59

I'm struggling with my emotions this week a few days after a medical termination.
Really feel sad and wondering what if. Wondering what could of been and feel such a loss.

Is this normal? I thought I was making the right decision.

I'm wondering if this is hormonal to some extent.

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NC4THISS Tue 08-Dec-20 21:17:33

I hear you.
I missed the ‘pregnant feeling’ immediately and sunk into a short depression. Luckily my DP was understanding throughout the whole period and helped a lot.

Do you have anyone in real life?

rasberryberety Tue 08-Dec-20 21:20:03

Yeh but he was very clear he didn't want to continue with the pregnancy.
I don't think this made my decision though but obviously impacted it.
Just feel so sad, completely out of sorts.
Stupid thing is I felt relieved at first that it was all over. It's only a few days on. Physically I'm fine

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NC4THISS Tue 08-Dec-20 23:21:11

Sorry I meant as in a friend or similar, my DP also didn’t want to go ahead with pregnancy and my best friend listened to me for hours.

There are quite a few threads over on the pregnancy choices boards. Go and have a browse at those too if you have a few minutes. Lots of experiences from people there who feel/felt like you.

I think whilst it’s totally normal I would also make sure that if it goes on and it seems to continue feeling like a regret, speak to a professional, part of the health care team who was part of the termination.


WishingHopingThinkingPraying Tue 08-Dec-20 23:25:49

I felt relieved. I realised I had my future back. I was so relieved. Ive never regretted it.

rasberryberety Tue 08-Dec-20 23:45:03

Thank you both x
I have on going depression anyway which is mostly stable now.
I will definitely go back to my gp if I continue feeling this low.
I'm just so shocked at being 99 percent sure on my decision, that I now feel 99 percent opposite.

I'm hoping it's the hormonal shifts.
I would've been a great mum tho.
Really really great and I'm missing my bean even though I didn't want it which is why I'm so confused 🥲

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WishingHopingThinkingPraying Wed 09-Dec-20 12:20:27

OP, you made the right decision for yourself in the situation. It's easy to see all the roses now that the reality is NOT in front of you. When it was reality, you decided based on proper information. Trust yourself.

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