Hello
I'm writing here to hopefully get some support off kind mumsnetters who have been in a similar situation and also a place to write down my feelings.
I'm 40. I found out last Thursday that I'm pregnant. I'm 5 Weeks approx so early I guess.
I have two older children! One adult and on a teenager.
This was me being lapse with emergency contraception thinking it would be ok because of my age. Took me ages to conceive with my second at 27 as well!
I've got over the shock now.
I've been in a relationship with someone for nearly two years. We have had a rocky road but things are really good. But we are no near the moving in stage or anything like that as we have taken things slow which suits me well. That saying I love this man to pieces and I'm pretty sure he loves me, (obviously he's told me but you get quite cautious at my age and past hurts).
So this is completely unplanned. I told him on Friday and I've never seen the wind taken out of someone like that.
He was so shocked. He made it clear that it was my decision and he would support me in anyway. He's been very loving and kind, he also made it very clear he doesn't want a baby and after really thinking I don't either. I don't want to start again, I've just got my freedom back - I know that sounds selfish but I mean i can now plan so many things with my children, not worry about childcare, look to saving more money in the future.
now I am able to work full time etc.
I don't feel any connection as yet but I've been taking folic acid just in case.
I rang bpas today and I have to wait another week for a phone consultation- I'm already getting symptoms.
I'm 99 percent sure I am going to terminate but I hate the fact I will
Always wonder. But really the timing isn't right.
Also cerments the fact that I won't ever be pregnant again-
I work with new born babies every day- this is so hard. I love babies and I'm a good mum. But I don't want a baby. It would literally mean starting again.
Or am I being selfish?
My head is a mess. I hope over the next week I find clarity.
I'm so scared of doing the procedure at home also I need it to fit around work! I can't have time off as I've already had time off lately and now being monitored for my attendance. Bullshit policy rules etc.
A hand hold would be nice.
Do u think if I took the tablets on a Friday morning - the second lot I would be ok to work on a Saturday night?
I'm so scared.
Thanks for anyone who will be kind enough to read this and reply.
What a shit show this year has been.
Thank you.
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seriouslywtf7654332678990 · 22/11/2020 18:34
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