Medical termination

[tink870]

Hi sensitive topic I'm in an abusive relationship and have found myself pregnant it was 100% something I've avoided and was totally shocked.
I've decided I don't feel I can continue the pregnancy as I don't want to be tied to this person in any way for my sake and my other three children's. I am so terrified I'm at the clinic this week I will be 6.5 days pregnant maybe 7 weeks.
I'm so scared can anyone talk me through this and offer some reassurance I feel terrible about what I'm doing anyway.

[tink870]

Anyone

[Ilovefriday]

I'm sorry, I don't have any practical advice for you but hopefully this might bump your thread up for someone who can. You sound like a very brave lady. I hope that you get offered some support in r/l from the clinic.

[aquarianaura]

You should be offered counselling by the clinic. Please take it. I declined but really wish I'd gone, it would have helped a lot.

I had a medical termination at 7 weeks nearly a year ago, and I can't lie, it was traumatic and very difficult, yet somehow still not as difficult as I'd expected. The pain was quite bad, but I'd had worse periods, and really, it didn't last long. Most of the time I was in the hospital was just waiting. I was there from 9am till 3ish, so take a book or something!

The nurses were all great too, they were so helpful and really put my mind at ease. There's a lot of horror stories about terminations, but don't believe them, and voice any concerns you have while you're there. Remember why you're there, as well. I knew 100% that I made the right decision for the time. It was a horrible experience, but I don't regret it. And again, it's mostly just waiting, and period pain, and period-like bleeding, and at some point you will feel a bigger gush of blood, and that will be it, then you'll have more normal period bleeding for a few days to a week.

Although it is a hard thing to do, it's worse in the mind than in reality. You're really being so strong. But I do suggest you take them up when they offer counselling. Big hugs to you lovely.

[tink870]

Thankyou so much I'm really scared and upset about it all. I never thought I would ever be in this position. I have phobias about taking pills and being sick does it make you sick what was the actual whole procedure like? Thanks so much

[aquarianaura]

No one ever does think they'll be in this place, but sometimes it happens, and that's okay. I also realised myself that it's a lot more common than we think, I can guarantee we all know several women who have been through this, it's just that no one talks about it.

I know the procedure itself can be different in different places, but my experience was that the first day I had to take 1 tablet which stops hormones from rising, and they also needed to take some bloods and a urine sample, then went back 2 days later for the actual thing, where I first had to see a doctor just to confirm everything, and he also did a scan to confirm weeks and he was very considerate, I couldn't see the screen or anything, then he left and the nurse pushed 2 tablets into my vagina and 1 antibiotic into my bum! TMI sorry! But that's what happened, and as uncomfortable as that was, at least I didn't have to swallow them!

I also asked for an anti sickness injection cos I had terrible morning sickness anyway, and the nurse said being sick is one of the side effects of the medication. That injection went in my bum and it hurt a hell of a lot but was worth it because I felt so much better afterwards and for the day while I was there I didn't feel sick at all.

Honestly there's no need to be scared, remember that the people you see there are either professionals, or they're women going through the same thing as you. No one judges. There's a lot of compassion. You're not alone.

I know this was very TMI and long but I think it's good to have an idea of what happens, I didn't have a clue when I went and it would have really helped me to be more realistic about it.

[tink870]

Thanks so much for the reply I half know what to expect now although I'm still so scared and worried because I can't tell anyone or go with anyone and have to look after my other kids after and act normal

[tink870]

Thanks so much I half have an idea now so scary because I can't confide in anyone people frown upon this I know that and I know my mom will and she's the only one that knows she thinks I should have it regardless of how mentally u well I feel or become I think. So I've got no one to come with me and somehow have to come home and look after the kids and act normal. It's so sad and lonely where I am at the moment I'm finding it hard to function I keep hoping I will lose the baby and god decides but I don't think it's going to happen.
Thankyou for replying to me

[oncemorewithfeeling99]

If your mum is judgemental but you need practical help, could you tell her you’ve had a miscarriage and need support with the kids? Close to the truth and might mean she was kind and would give you some rest.