What should I do

[4weeksgone]

Please, I need help. I've found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant with my second child. Unplanned, I was on the pill. My partner doesnt want any more children and wants me to have an abortion. I feel sick to the core everytime I think about it and I cant stop crying.
His reasons make sense, we only have a small 2 bedroom house and whilst i think we could fit another in, even though it would be a squeeze, he thinks we would need to buy a larger house which would wipe out our savings and make money very tight. This would then mean we are taking away from our son and stopping him from having a comfortable childhood. He also really doesnt any more children. He said it would put too much pressure on our relationship, hed probably end up resenting me and our son will suffer the most.

I can see his reasons and the last thing I want is to take away anything from my son. I want him to have a good childhood with happy memories and happy parents but I dont know if that's enough to override my instincts for this pregnancy.
I'm not against abortion and I understands it's the right choice for many but I always felt the only thing that could make me have one was if the baby would be born so poorly it would suffer.
I feel torn and devastated. I feel if I have an abortion a part of me will die, I will never fully accept it was the right thing, if I keep the pregnancy, the love of my life, my son suffers
What should I do

[Michellebops]

You're only 4 weeks so plenty of time to make a rational decision.

Firstly, whilst you can listen to his reasons the final decision can only be made by you, it is your body.

Take time, think it over and weigh up pros and cons.

He cannot force you to abort. If he does then you will end up resenting him anyway or will put some strain on your relationship. Same way if you decide to keep it.

Do you think you can mange being a single mum, whether one or two kids? Do you have a good support network around you?

[Michellebops]

And using your son as an emotional weapon is out of order in my opinion

[4weeksgone]

Thank you for replying. I'm very close to my mum but I wouldn't want to move back home with her, she smokes and the house stinks so I couldnt raise children there. I dont think I can afford somewhere on my own though. I just wish hed support me a bit more and not be so cold about it

[4weeksgone]

I'm 34, I should be strong enough to know my own mind and know I could cope on my own. Thank you for saying hes using our son as blackmail, I think it's unfair too however its worked and put doubt in my mind

[BetterAlone]

I don't think you'll be taking anything away from your DS. You are providing him with what might become a much loved sibling.

But you have to be comfortable with whatever you decide.....it's you that will take the brunt, either way.

Sending hugs 🤗

[AiryFairyMum]

If you want this baby, keep it. Your son will love his sibling and there is always room for one more. Or ditch your husband and keep your children!