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Unplanned pregnancy

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Peekaboo19 · 03/11/2019 23:31

I have recently found out I am pregnant again and I don't think I want to keep it. Dh and I already have 2dc, dd is 5yo and DS is 7mo. Ds doesn't sleep and DH works long hours so I really don't get much help from him, or anyone else. I am dreading telling him I'm pregnant incase he wants we to continue with the pregnancy. We had an ectopic pregnancy before DS and we were both heartbroken. I think this may cloud his judgement on what is best in this situation. I feel terrible even considering a termination after knowing how much we suffered but I really don't think I could cope with another baby. I don't want to keep this from him but the thought of me terminating the pregnancy if he wants me to continue with it seems incredibly cruel. I couldn't bear the thought of putting him through that pain again but I have no intention of continuing this pregnancy. Can I keep this from him?

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Worrywart21 · 09/11/2019 22:57

What makes you think he’ll want to keep it?

If I was pregnant I would NEED to share it as I couldn’t have that burden alone. Your children’s ages are hard ages and a third child is hard regardless of what age the other children are. I think there is a strong possibility your husband will see where you are coming from.

And regardless of what happened in previous pregnancies, your life is different now, you have more children and that is your priority. Doesn’t matter what happened before.