Dear All,
Hope you won't judge me for what I'm about to tell you.
I cry most days as I just cannot move on and feel such intense sadness about what I have done. I'm writing partly out of intense pain/a cry for help and partly to ask you for opinions.
i'm 47. Had a beautiful baby girl when i was 42. First time around yes at 42. She was my miracle girl. happened naturally, after 5 years of trying.
But I lost my Mum and Dad due to various illnesses when I was pregnant to my little girl. Around 3 and 4 months pregnant I was:(
i couldn't grieve them when I was pregnant, as i had to keep strong for the baby.
Then, when baby girl was turning about 18 months, I fell pregnant! Straight away, iIknew I didn't want it as I had only recently started the intense process of grieving and i felt so depressed and sad about them gone. Instead of wanting and rejoicing in another baby, I didn't want it, and quickly decided to get rid. Who does that? Only me.
Shortly after aborting, the regret kicked in and i hated myself for it. Really regretted it.
Then I found myself pregnant again last year when i was 46. I was so excited and thought this was my second chance. However, I miscarried naturally this time at 8 weeks. I was devastated, but wasn't surprised given my age.
Now I just feel so so sad that I got rid of that pregnancy number 2. I cannot move on and I cannot forgive myself. I would now have a gorgeous little 3.5 year old and would have given a sibling to my daughter.
Will the pain and regret ever leave me? I feel too sad for words.
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smiles73 · 25/09/2019 17:02
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